Normal behaviour or something more?

[Mindgoneblanko]

First child so not sure if I’m reading too much into it.
My toddler Dd is 2 years and 8 months.
She’s very energetic, can never occupy herself alone for long, very exquisite etc with very good vocabulary.
I’ve noticed that after playing with friends particularly, she’s ultra hyper, hard to calm down and often has some type of meltdown.
This morning, we had a younger baby friend here, who started to cry, my Dd got quite upset when she started to cry and put her hands over her ears and screamed, saying she didn’t like the noise. She does the same when our dog barks loudly.
She’s very outgoing and approaches everyone and talks lots, she’s just quite full on!
Is this standard behaviour at this age? I notice most of her friends are calmer

My son is 2y7m and gets hyper and has meltdowns when he's tired. He dropped his nap at Christmas (best gift ever...🙄) so this happens fairly regularly at the moment. "Good" hyper for him is asking random questions one after the other, "bad" hyper is demanding one thing after the other without waiting for an answer, whilst crying. It's so sad to see, as his little head just can't cope and it's almost like there's been a short circuit in his brain☹️ The only thing that works for both is to choose an activity (or food) and get him to engage with it for at least a minute, as this seems to reset him and calm him down.

Meant to add: I'm pretty sure my son's behaviour is normal for a tired toddler, I certainly wouldn't associate it with ASD or ADHD. To me, "full on" sounds like an accurate description of your daughter, I doubt it's outside the range of normal. As a pp said, she might just be someone who likes quiet (ironically this doesn't mean she herself is quiet - I'm from a line of peace and quiet loving noisy extroverts🤷‍♀️) I'd be mindful not to tire her out too much (it's very tricky to find the right balance though) and bear in mind she might be hyper because she's tired. They're not very good at communicating at this age I've found, but it's easy to forget as they often do have the language.

Can you elaborate on asd at all? She’s very sociable and outgoing? Some people with ASD are, unfortunately that's not an indicator of whether she has it or not.

My ds used to do this, he hated really loud noises, didn't like seeing people cry or upset. I often thought he might have asd but it turned out he had mild hearing loss. He has grown out of it and is fine now.

Sounds pretty normal to me!

Getting over-excited and meltdowns after play dates - definitely normal!

And sensitivity to noise is super common in young children - my 4 year old still freaks out about hand driers, loud music, etc. My older DC were the same but grew out of it.