How would you feel ?

[Chocolatekrispy]

If you'd had a hair cut and your partner didn't notice it?
I only get mine done twice a year and Its an obvious cut like choppy layers etc

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I would be a little upset, yes. But I suppose it depends on what your partner is like ordinarily with these things. Would he typically have noticed something like this / complimented you on a new haircut?

I'm useless at realising if someone's had a haircut. My husband will say I'm going to get a haircut after work he'll stroll in all pleased and I'll be like oh did you have a good day ( not even noticing the new hair). I do it to my mum and sister. I just truly am useless 😬.

I don't notice when my partner goes from a full bush beard to clean shaven, so I'm afraid I'm not help to you, OP.

I have felt for a bit now that he isn't Really interested in me, I've put on quite a bit of weight ( not sure if that's relevant ) but I've noticed if I get out the bath drop my towel to get ready for bed Infront of him he doesn't even look at me anymore like I imagine blokes would look at their partners if that makes sense, but I thought that was just me but it's quite an obvious cut, I saw my sister today and it was the first thing she said was I really like your hair, so it is defo noticeable

Yes would have complimented in the past

I don't think he'd notice unless it was drastic, then again I'm still not 100% sure he would. I'm sure he hasn't noticed in the past and it doesn't bother me at all.
Equally he's asked me "what do you think?" after a shave and it's only at that point I've realised he had a beard up until then. 🙈

It doesn't bother me at all - sometimes (pre-CV19) I'd whatsapp him from the hairdressers going "I'm in the hairdressers - remember to admire me and my new hairstyle when I get home!!"

My mom gains and loses weight periodically. I never ever notice. She always looks the same to me, until she points it out and I realise she’s lost 2 stone
DH shaves his head every 3 or 4 weeks. Usually in the morning, then about bedtime, I’ll realise and ask him when he did it.

Conversely, I always notice when my best friend’s hair is longer/ shorter/ curlier/ redder.

There’s no rhyme nor reason to it.

Therein lies the issue methinks, the haircut is neither itself here nor there - it's about that loss of spark, attention and general frisson between the two of you. Have you spoken to him about it?

I think it's bothered me so much because for a while I've felt like he isn't into me like he was, he says all the right things but I don't feel like he sees me the way men see their wives as weird as that sounds

I've said in the past I know he doesn't like me like he did since putting on the weight and he then Denys it and says oh your beautiful etc but I don't feel he means it

My partner is Autistic and doesn't pick up on things like hair cuts etc. I don't take it personally as it's just how he operates. If I want a compliment, I'll say "I'm on my way to the hairdressers, remember to say how nice it looks when I get back ".