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Original poster

why can't i post on a thread now its past 1000 posts but others can.

47 replies

mamazon · 12/11/2007 00:29

i know that actually i probably dont want to but some of the things said there are so ludicrous i can't help myself.

has tech fitted a "its for your own good" devide where it stops you posting on deeply offensive threads for the sake of your own sanity?

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wrinklytum · 12/11/2007 00:35

Is it the single mums one ,Mamazon?Dunno.Am not single mum though am gradually wishing I was.Have no idea but am sure would parp some of the comments.

Bectheneck · 12/11/2007 00:39

If it's the single mum thread mamazon I'm amazed it let me post. I could have said a lot more but you're right it's not good for my sanity. :D

I've never felt so angry on here nor have I felt so crap about my situation after reading some of those comments. I try really hard to find positive things in my life to focus on to stop me slipping into despair but that thread has just made me feel like shite.

But then if I didn't spend all my benefit money on internet access and was sat in the dark with a bowl of gruel instead I wouldn't have seen the comments so it's my own fault really.

Original poster
mamazon · 12/11/2007 00:40

the thread has really got me angry so i know i shouldn't even look but some of teh comments just NEED to be rebutted.

some of the ignorance being displayed is amazing.

and it makes me even more annoyed that some of them can post and i can't.
yet another thing us SMOB's cant do right huh lol

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SaintGeorge · 12/11/2007 00:43

I could be wrong but I think this might be a glitch I spotted once before.

If you have an earlier version of the thread open, so that you still have the post message box at the bottom, it sometimes lets an extra post or two through. Once the thread has passed the 1000+ posts mark and you have refreshed the page, you no longer have access to the posting box.

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mamazon · 12/11/2007 00:45

dammit.

knew i shouldn't have gone off to wash up.

see now if i was a WOHM with a partner i could have afforded a cleaner and i would have been able to post some more about twuntish attitudes.

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wrinklytum · 12/11/2007 00:46

Hey,B,I think the comments are unreasonable.

1)I am sure most people do not set out to be a single mother
2)Benefits would no way pay £800 disposable income
3)Having spent the last 10 weeks as a "SINGLE MUM"with limited income those who have never experienced it are talking out odFarse and I have immense respect (DP IN HOSPITAL AND HAS NOT PAID ni CONTRIBUTIONS AAARGH)

Desiderata · 12/11/2007 00:50

That thread was a bummer, for sure.

A mother, whether single or attached, should never be considered unemployed. This is a very recent and very unpleasant aspect of modern society.

Bectheneck · 12/11/2007 00:54

When came on MN earlier it was well past 1000 posts. I caught up from last night (10 pages!!) then I wrote mine and then logged in and it posted. V odd. If mine is the last post I should have blown a big raspberry to finish it off.

Original poster
mamazon · 12/11/2007 00:55

more frightening is that i think one of those who were most vocal in their distaste for SMOB's was a teacher

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Desiderata · 12/11/2007 00:56

Well I didn't pick up on that, but shame on the cow.

LuckyUnderpants · 12/11/2007 00:59

i am shocked by the complete ignorance on that thread, and from MNers who i would have credited with a little more intelligence! i said my piece when it first kicked off then got out quick before i got very very

expatinscotland · 12/11/2007 01:03

i quit posting on there because it was like teaching a dog to read.

Desiderata · 12/11/2007 01:08

Ah, but we'll live to fight another day, girls

We all know that there but for the grace of God goes all of us.

It's just a shame that some women don't really get that ..

nightowl · 12/11/2007 01:20

i sincerely hope that the women posting the ignorant, offensive comments never find themselves in the situation they refer to have no fecking idea about

geekymummy · 12/11/2007 11:07

I completely agree.

People could do with a much needed dose of empathy and compassion. For the people I know who have to rely on benefits, life is far from easy.

sixlostmonkeys · 12/11/2007 11:43

A part 2 was started for those who wish to continue posting.

It is so frustrating when such ignorance and bitterness comes from not only parents but teachers and the like. It is also heartbreaking when you discover the pain single mums on benefits have suffered reading such vile posts

Peachy · 12/11/2007 11:46

That thread went bad, its nt worth bothering- had to get one post deleted (apaprently me and Dh shouldnt haev kids (add a lto of swearing about us to that) because he doesn't work. Except he does. 2 jobs. )

And sadly that was probably one of the rational posts!

kindersurprise · 12/11/2007 11:48

Quite right, I also left the thread early on as I was amazed and saddened by the complete lack of empathy for single mums.

I was angry and upset about some of the comments, and I have a DH. I hate to imagine what a sm would feel like reading the nasty comments.

bigspender30 · 12/11/2007 11:51

I have totally missed this post but it sounds horrible. I have nothing but admiration and respect for single parents.

stripeymama · 12/11/2007 11:53

Made me feel like utter shite.

Some people are just unbelievable in their pigheaded insistence that they know all about something when they very clearly don't.

Peachy · 12/11/2007 11:56

There seems to be an association between single aprent and some low life in some peoples minds on tehre, why can't people understand that many single aprents (most!) are there through divorce, death, a partner that suddenly vanished- things that can happen to anyone. One single dad I know packed inhis job yes- his wife died in childbirtha nd then their daughter sustained severe disability (complete paralysed, etc) as a result of vaccine damage. Goodness knows how he'd have felt at seeing that thread!

You do the best you can with the hand you've been dealt- and you make your own judgements as to what that is. yes OK there are a few chanceers in every walk of life but that doesn't make it OK to assume everyone else must be as well.

ScoobyDoo · 12/11/2007 11:56

Ha i gave up on that thread right at the beginning because it was bringing another side out to me, luckily i kept my comments in my lounge & not typed out.

I am not even a single mum but i have a couple of friends who are & know people who have been & seent he struggle.

If there is a part two so be it but it will only call for more abusive for the high oh mighty people.

rantinghousewife · 12/11/2007 11:59

Some of them came across as pig headed and ignorant tbh, and one of them had a hidden agenda, I remember her posting about family problems and I don't think her comments were unconnected to the way she felt about that.
As someone who is now married and was once a single parent, I feel great empathy for any single parent and the single mums were spot on about the constant juggling of money and paying of bills when you can afford it.

Wisteria · 12/11/2007 11:59

I actually went downstairs and ranted about that in RL - never usually do that.....

sure that particular poster was a troll anyway or a spineless namechanger!

Peachy · 12/11/2007 12:03

Had to be a troll surely? Didn't seem to haev any abckground knowledge about a few prolific posters.

Its a shame, thought this was a supportive site? OTOH though if your ead between the bizarre psotings a lot of epople were singing from a supportive songsheet I suppose, just they don't come to mind so readily