AIBU to not do anything for DS birthday?
thegreenlight · 14/04/2021 10:03
DS is 9 this year - due to a rubbish lockdown birthday last year we have planned for him to have an all singing and dancing Tipi sleepover party in the garden with 3 friends from his bubble with an escape room at home (will cost about £500 all in). This was due to be on his actual birthday but we have moved our booking to 30odd days later to coincide with more relaxed COVID regs.
So now we have nothing for him to do on his actual birthday (which Is on a bank holiday 🙄) I don’t know what to do because I don’t really want to spend a lot due to spending so much on his party. Am I a miser? We will do fave takeaway and presents and a little cake and balloons but all is organised for the following month. DH doesn’t care but I have terrible mum guilt - give me ideas! Please!
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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thegreenlight · 14/04/2021 10:22
DS is so excited about the party - we are going all out on a theme that he is really excited about. He doesn’t really care about the day, he’s pretty undemanding to be fair. I’m a bit worried about regulations ruining a day out too. This is all about me and my guilt. He mentioned the seaside but it’s nearly 3 hours away! I’ve just booked for Disneyworld next year so feeling a bit like theme parks are a waste of money in the U.K. anyway.
DancesWithDaffodils · 14/04/2021 10:50
Favourite meal (not always restaurant or take away), cake, presents and a couple of balloons is a standard birthday here.
Often with a party the weekend before or after - but not always.
You've got the advantage of a bank holiday if you want to go somewhere, but he's got a fabulous party booked. Dont stress.
winifredwells · 14/04/2021 10:56
So now we have nothing for him to do on his actual birthday
it's not true, you have presents, cake, just organise a treat day. (watching favourite movie with pizza/pop corn, going somewhere local for something he likes). You know your kid, as long as you make a fuss on the day, it's not "nothing".
At 9 they are old enough to understand parties can be later.
Many kids don't even celebrate their birthday at home on the day when the parents are working, you do it at the weekend. Don't worry about it, your kid doesn't seem to be missing out on anything.
ShinyGreenElephant · 14/04/2021 10:57
We had the same thing - DDs party delayed til after 17th May so she could have more friends and they could come in the house if they want to. On the daywe had a special breakfast, balloons and stuff, then we went to my mums for a bbq in the garden, came home and had a movie marathon of her favourite films the rest of us don't like and her favourite takeaway. She loved it and we will more than make up for it in may
Mintyflesh · 14/04/2021 12:17
He's mentioned the seaside which I guess for an undemanding child means he really wants to go to the seaside but knows it's a big ask as it's so far away, and he is getting the party later. I would be very surprised if he really wasn't bothered about the actual day itself, it just sounds like he doesn't want to be too demanding.
I would take him to the seaside.
3Britnee · 14/04/2021 13:58
AtleastitsnotMonday · 14/04/2021 14:22
Will you buy him a gift? Any other people likely to give him presents? If you know what presents he is likely to get I would build a day around getting lots of opportunity to try presents out. E.g if he gets a skate board a trip to the skate park, new games console, time to game with friends, new tennis racquet, trip to tennis courts etc.
Meowchickameowmeow · 14/04/2021 14:55
'Oh I'm just spending £500 on my child, but only getting a takeaway for his birthday, presents, small home party, I'm suuuuch a miser'. Sure thing.
...and then slipping in about the holiday to Disneyworld!
FearlessSwiftie · 15/04/2021 10:38
I think it's fine and you can have a family picnic like Angrypregnantlady said and also treat him to some fun games or just a movie night at home. There are plenty of ideas about having a Birthday on budget, you can make a Happy Birthday slideshow for him, play some games or have a DIY activity. Here is a good article about Birthday party at home- www.parents.com/fun/birthdays/ideas/17-tips-to-throw-a-kids-birthday-party-on-a-budget/ which can help you with ideas! Trying the presents out is also a great thing to do.
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