AIBU to cut all contact with a ‘friend’?

[Manchestermum1983]

This is a LONG story but...AIBU?

Last year my best friend (since we were in baby group together) - let’s call her Nancy! asked another friend in our friendship group to be godparent to her daughter. I heard about this through my Auntie who is best friends with Nancy’s mum. She didn’t tell me or text me and I was shocked that she didn’t ask me. We have been the best of friends and could rely on each other for anything. I had a child and I widened my friendship circle and since then Nancy became friends with someone else in our friendship group. Nancy didn’t tell me that she was pregnant, and didn’t tell me she was in hospital giving birth but I still considered her my best friend. When baby was born I tried to see her but she kept saying she was busy so probably didn’t meet the baby for two months.
Since my auntie told me that our other friend has been asked to be godparent instead of me I can’t bear to even hear her name. I get so upset by it and it has made me massively depressed. I did bring it up with Nancy through a letter! and she didn’t really understand why I was so upset.
AIBU to cut all contact?

OP, you’re having a very extreme reaction to a completely normal situation — an old friendship drifts when one person has a child and starts expanding their friendships with other parents, and the other becomes closer to someone else and chooses that person as godparent when she has a baby.

It’s not a tragedy, OP, and you’re not helping either of you by behaving as if it’s some huge betrayal. Friendships wax and wane, and you may find yourselves rekindling your relationship in the future. I think your insistence on the (juvenile) ‘best friend’ label — I note you also say your aunt is your friend’s mother’s ‘best friend’ — is making you think there’s some kind of official position here, and that ‘Nancy’ has betrayed you by not making her ‘best friend’ godmother.

Surely you noticed you’d become less close of late?

Out of interest, what is it you think a "godparent" is OP?

You are coming across as a needy nightmare. As a non-Christian you shouldn’t really be a godparent as you’d be lying in what you have to say in church. It’s not up to you who your friend has as a godparent, you can’t just assume it would be you. You’ve been talking about your friend behind her back, and getting upset with her for no reason, no wonder she wants to distance herself from you. You need to apologise and mean it if you want to save this friendship.