To feel used.

[romdowa]

a friend messaged me recently asking had I any news , I replied that I hadn't been very well and had been diagnosed with a medical condition. They replied that's awful and then went on to tell me all about their problems and mental health in detail ... not once did they ask me about my issue or how I felt about it etc and honestly I feel quite used. Just here as an emotional dumping ground and I often just ignore messages as I just cant listen to what ever their particular gripe is at the time. When I do message I try and be empathetic and give advice around their issues but an I unreasonable to expect the same back?

YANBU but it is very difficult to tell people this without coming off as needy or unreasonable.
I have a friend like this though and sporadically I am also the friend like this. You probably are too?

Maybe the odd time I would be like that but I usually just discuss these things with my dp as he is the only one who actually listens and makes me feel supported. I seem to be the go to person for support among my friends and family. I think I'm just burned out from it now , so its starting to affect me more iyswim.

You cannot pour from an empty cup.

Not sure how normal it is but I definitely run out of whatever powers my ability to deal with other peoples shit and need to recharge every now and again.