To want my mum to stop commenting on my love life!

[Lizzie523]

I'm late 20s & split up with a partner 2 years ago. Happily single as I've been in relationships most of my life. I may or may not meet someone and I'm content to wait and see. Ambivalent about kids atm but that may change.

I've noticed my mum commenting on my love life as I get nearer to 30:

She said "I hope your next boyfriend will be a good one" as though I have a history of dating rubbish guys. I don't & I feel the pressure of that 'next' one a lot

she has started shoe horning the topic into normal conversation. I mentioned the guys on a show had got better looking (tongue in cheek) & she said oh but they might have other good traits etc. Surely you wouldnt be so shallow, wouldn't you consider other things?

She mentioned jokingly maybe I could marry a rich man recently. I said looked at her dead pan and said 'really?' And she said 'well you never know!'

She never used to talk about me getting married at all. I don't want her to make these comments and I actually think it is unacceptable. Am I being too sensitive?

I almost forgot - we were emptying a room recently as I was moving. A box of condoms fell out of a box and she said "oh maybe you'll put them to good use soon!"

I just find it bizarre she makes these comments but maybe I'm lacking a sense of humour. she never used to. I'm starting to feel like your actual Bridget Jones.

You're getting older and she wants grandkids.

Tell her to bog off.

Time to tell her how you feel. The Bridget Jones analogy is a good one. She needs to know she’s over-reaching and it’s bugging you. She raised you to be independent and make your own choices so she needs to get off your back and let you do that. If you live with her, definitely time to move out!

@FrankButchersDickieBow you are probably right.

I am not and have never been a person that has always wanted to get married and have kids. If I meet someone I want to be with and have kids with, fine. But there is no guarantee and I'm not signing up to dating sites desperate to happen.

Do what I did with mine, tell her it’s none of her damned business and she can stop making personal comments right now. I was bloody sick and tired of her (banging on about children).

@Cherrysoup I think I will have to.

I already know she will tell me I am over reacting. I don't care what she thinks imo, if I ask her to stop then she should respect that.

We get enough pressure from 30+ off society without our mothers jumping on the bandwagon