Just wondering if anyone else is in this position / been through this. And, apologies in advance, as I’m on the vino so hoping this is coherent!
We live a commutable distance from London, jobs are in London / in this area, with DC (under 6).
I grew up in an area miles away, to not be outing - think Cornwall/Scotland etc type of distance. Real small town / rural community - know lots of extended family etc
Parents are getting older and I think Covid has me thinking about what the long term plan is re where we/they live.
We’re near DH’s family and they’re great, but I’m also really missing my family and our DC are my DP’s only DGC (lots of other DGC on DH’s side). DH likes the area I’m from so that’s not an issue. DP are amazing DGP, when they can visit, and I think have hopes that we might move one day.
The one thing that really gets me at the moment is that I can’t just pop around for a cup of tea, but obviously also can’t easily support them if needed in future.
I feel like we’re in a great location now but the different type of lifestyle could also be amazing for the DC - certainly didn’t do me any harm, maybe too sheltered if anything! And maybe a slight worry about less opportunities with being more isolated.
But even if we could / wanted to make the move work one day, I feel like we’d have the same problems in the future with our DC living away.
DP did briefly think about moving up to us at one point, but i think they would be miserable. They’re so involved with local community / lots of family etc.
Anyone had / having this dilemma?
YABU - you’re happy where you are don’t risk moving to be closer to DP
YANBU - make the move sooner rather than later while the DC are young / to not regret time missed with DP