Hen party

[Mumto3thatsme]

So best friend is getting married later this year.
Her hen party that was arranged for last year has now been transferred to this summer and due to various reasons 2 people have pulled out.
I offered the places to 2 old school friends, it’s a full day of activities then a more relaxed evening, accommodation is sorted too.
Both friends were excited to participate.
I left it a few days and sent a message to them both saying that although both places were already paid for, how would they feel about paying the £100 to pay back those that couldn’t come...they’ve ghosted me...awkward...aibu to have suggested that?

This is like those people who offer you baby clothes and stuff and then try to charge you. I'm glad they actually didn't just meekly hand it over.

You are VERY unreasonable not to have brought that up immediately. I wouldn't have ghosted you, but I'd have told you no. They're not even friends of the bride. I'd feel like you were just using me to recoup cash and tell you I wasn't pleased with that.

Cheeky feckers! When you take someone's place it's a given that you compensate them in full surely?

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

Cheeky feckers! When you take someone's place it's a given that you compensate them in full surely?

No it isn't. Unless you're told that. Ditto if you offer someone clothes or stuff, you tell them first if you want money for it.