Sister ignored pregnany

[Chrita]

Not sure if I am being a princess or have reason to feel hurt.
Sister announced pregnancy nervously due to previous miscarriage, I was pleased for her and was in contact checking in with her to see how she was feeling etc. A few weeks later I also found out I was expecting and excitidely shared with her and our immediate family, expecting to be able to share the experience, but heard nothing back.
Another family member told me she was finding it difficult to cope with knowing I was pregnant in case I ended up with a baby and she didn't, but didn't communicate this herself, just ignored me. I then suffered a horrific miscarriage at 8 weeks. There was little communication from her about it. I've sent her a few messages offering her baby things and asking how she is getting on and get one worded, one sided replies.
Then out of the blue she contacts me telling me she was sending gender reveal cupcakes to my house.
I want to be happy for her but (and was before all this) I just feel a bit put out she has essentially ignored my situation (both the high of pregnancy, and low miscarriage) and don't feel like celebrating for her when she couldn't for me - AIBU?!

Could you reply "And how would you have felt being sent baby cupcakes after your miscarriage? Nice to hear from you at last...."

@Evergibbon

Could you reply "And how would you have felt being sent baby cupcakes after your miscarriage? Nice to hear from you at last...."

Harsh that those words are, I might be tempted to send them.

I’m feeling bad enough just from my SIL ignoring my pregnancy, she ignores scan pics in the family WhatsApp but responds to photos of her parents dog (who she’s never met as she lives abroad).... but this is way worse as with SIL there’s no backstory about miscarriage etc, she just is self absorbed.

I’d tell her how you feel in a non confrontational way, maybe use the miscarriage as a way to try and get her to empathise? As it’s something you both sadly have in common.

Thanks everyone, I feel a bit better now.
In fairness, the cupcakes are delicious, just totally insensitive and double standards on her part!

She's gone from feeling understandably anxious to actively spiteful. The complete silence on your wonderful then tragic news is unkind and unempathetic but to then send you those cakes, which was an active choice on her part, is really cruel. I think I'd have to send her a message to let her know how much she has hurt you. Her pain doesn't trump yours, nor give her carte blanche to treat you so appallingly. I'm sure, over time, you will move on and have a lovely relationship with your nibling but she really needs to be made aware of how horrid and self-absorbed she is being.