I hate confrontation

[MrsSchrute]

This is not a TAAT, but inspired by a lot of threads I have read in recent days.
So often, I see people who seem so terrified of even minor confrontations that they twist themselves in knots, and come up with the.most elaborate schemes, to avoid having a direct conversation.
Wouldn't it just be much simpler to tell someone if they're doing something you don't like? Or correct someone who had made a mistake?
Is it just a lack of confidence?
I'm not talking about putting yourself in danger of physical harm. But if someone is, for example, posting pictures of you child on social media and you don't want them too, or making loud noise late at night, why not just ask them not too?
Have we all just become so conditioned to comfort that even a slightly uncomfortable conversation is unbearable?

Reading this with interest as I am a chronic confrontation avoider / people pleaser . I will do anything to avoid stating my needs or having an opposing view to anyone else (then seethe silently inside that no one listens to me)

I notice that this has got worse as I’ve got older . I’m in my late 40’s now and I’m sure I was a little more assertive when I was younger . I thought confidence was supposed to come with age - but for me it’s going the other way

It is a British thing indeed to see normal communication and not expecting others to be mind readers as 'confrontation'. Quite a silly waste of time, too, trying to guess what another is thinking, motives, making presumptions, etc.

God I’ve gone the other way as I’ve got older! Much more likely to speak up young women trained to simper and put up with things but that wears off!

@Hoppinggreen

My DH says I love it, I actually don’t but never avoid confrontation. I’m not shouty or aggressive though, just very assertive and calm. I am both English and a woman

You sound like me! I do think it's a skill you can learn.