To think my dd shouldn’t be made to tell me things if she doesn’t want to

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She’s 24 nearly 25 still lives with me though. She’s under CMHT and has recently been put under the crisis team. They have told her they will be calling me to tell me why she’s under them. While I would prefer my children talk to me I know she’s been talking to her friends about how she’s feeling which I know at her age. I also preferred to do. Aibu to think her wishes should be respected if she doesn’t want me involved?

She may have expressed homicidal or suicidal thinking
You dont know
If they phoned you there is a reason
and sticking your head in the sand is helping no one

Thank you everyone for your helpful replies. I’m thinking of calling them as they way she is so determined that I can’t speak to them is a bit concerning.

It is more common for professionals to refuse to talk to families once a service user is over 18, and for those families, who have responsibility day to day for the family member, to be really keen to know what is happening and how the professional team think the service user can be supported. I’m very interested in your stance that if your DD doesn’t want you to know, you shouldn’t speak to the CMHT.

I would send them an email and ask whether they wanted to talk to you. Ask them to email a response rather than calling unexpectedly.