Sad about event two years ago?

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Someone who I’ve know for around 25 years who I thought was a good friend. We don’t see each other all the time but we were very close at one point and we would say we were best friends. But now she has a family we do see each other less.

Well I was scrolling through Facebook and I stumbled across photos of her girls christening .., an event she never even told me and never uploaded photos herself.

It was two years ago now but I only saw it today and I just feel sad that she wouldn’t have invited me to a big event in her life and seemingly hid it.

For reference I was a guest at her wedding before when there was only around 20 guests.

Honestly, you’re overthinking it. I totally understand why you’re upset, as a similar thing happened to me, only on a WhatsApp group rather than Facebook, it was just casually dropped in. It hurt, but these things happen. It’s in the past, try not to let it upset you. The person in question and I are still really close friends.

I just don’t get why people hide these things. With social media people get caught out so easily sometimes.

Also I’d never confront her about it. I just feel let down because I wouldn’t second guess having her at a big life event.

Ah things like this are really hurtful but I think you’ve got to try your best not to get stuck on it.
Who knows why she didn’t invite you.

If you weren’t going to be a god parent and aren’t close family then I don’t see why you would be invited to be totally honest.

I do agree however that it’s a little odd she hasn’t mentioned it in passing but, again, it’s only a christening so not exactly a huge deal.

I think you’re reading too much into it OP

Was it a big Christening do? The only people we had at our childrens Christenings were family, and godparents.

Christenings often aren't like weddings - for our DDs we literally had the godparents + their spouses, our parents, our siblings and a couple of older aunties.

I know some people have the world and their wife but often it's a much smaller occasion.

I was raised in a religious family but we just don't do flashy christenings. A couple of people in our wider social circle found out and seemed a bit put out not to be invited but christenings are SO boring if people aren't involved (ie godparents)- no knees up like at a wedding. I wouldn't mention my own DD's christening to anyone who wasn't there, but just because it wouldn't cross my mind to do that.

Christenings are honestly not at all like weddings or other big events. I was my cousins chief bridesmaid and wasn't at any of her children's christenings. It was immediate family only. Don't over think it.

IME christenings are family only events (unless a friend is a godparent) and honestly not that big of a deal - ceremony and then a meal.

She didn't upload the photos herself so...that's not really hiding it, is it? Some people are just selective with what they put online especially in regards to kids, and also... A christening isn't like a wedding. Unless you're a grandparent, the godparents or a sibling of the parents then it's not really odd not to be invited.

Odd thing to be upset about tbh.

Are the couple actually Christian? We sometimes see big, wedding like christening events at church, but we never see the family again. When it's a Christian family, it tends to be just very Christian friends, family and church members.

How often were you seeing her two years ago? Sometimes close friends drift apart, it's sad but adult life just gets in the way so easily. I wonder if you're not sad so much about the lack of invitation, but the loss of the friendship that it represents.

Baptisms aren't like weddings, normally only those who are godparents come unless they attend that church. Occasionally they bring dozens but that's an exception