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Does anyone else ever feel like this?

51 replies

DressesWithPockets · 09/04/2021 18:33

Last day of Easter holidays. Kids are nearly 4 and nearly 7. I'm so tired I've spent a lot of the day lying down while they play.

At first I thought I must be ill, I felt so dreadful. But other than being so tired I could cry (and a bit achy) I've no other symptoms.

Kids sleep through fine and I share parenting 50/50 with my husband, so I don't know why I feel so run down. All I can think is it's the stress of a whole year of Covid, homeschooling, being in each other's pockets (we both wfh atm) all the time suddenly taking its toll.

Does anyone ever feel like this? Inexplicably just exhausted? If someone told me I could go to bed for the weekend I'd do it.

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Justgivemeamoment · 09/04/2021 20:20

Same here. You are so not alone. I've read so many very similar stories from here and can relate to each and every one of them. It's been a bad year hasn't it.

Someone had a good point about the previous generation, did your parents play with you all day or organise educational, fun activities !? Mine didn't...

Boho7 · 09/04/2021 20:23

Yanbu . Me and dp literally were talking about this just now. We could sleep all weekend. We both just feel sooo tired with no explanation for it really!

LividLiving · 09/04/2021 20:30

Check your thyroid.

Doctor didn’t understand why I thought it was normal to be in bed by 6pm on a Friday.

Watermelon1234 · 09/04/2021 20:31

Yes I can relate to this.

Feel tired and achey all over and demotivated.

We are doing a daily walk and a couple of parks but other than that it’s chores and more chores.

It’s laborious and dull. Kids are noisy and bickering indoors, could let them on electronics but then struggle to get them off.

Watermelon1234 · 09/04/2021 20:31

Oh and I put the achiness down to muscle tension too!

Watermelon1234 · 09/04/2021 20:32

Oh and not sleeping due to dh snoring which is a whole other thread but is driving me bonkers.

Disneyblue · 09/04/2021 20:35

I feel like this when really run down. It does catch up on you. I'm a teacher and it's amazing the difference before and after a holiday. I'm literally on my knees by the end of a half term.
It sound like you need a rest. And please do. Or it'll only get worse.

userxx · 09/04/2021 20:36

Considering it's been a 4 day week I'm shattered. No motivation for anything.

ThinkYouveHadTooMuch · 09/04/2021 20:37

I'm just bored out of my fucking mind!!! Lying in my bed and watching telly is all there is to do!!

Sooverthis1 · 09/04/2021 20:39

I'm sorry for everyone else but glad you started this thread op. I had a day this week where I actually started to worry that I might be ill , it was an effort to put one foot in front of the other.. I also find it hard to get up but in fairness I have to be up early so maybe it's normal but I never struggled before..
Maybe it's also the mental toil of the whole thing, I'm in Ireland and we are still in a strict lockdown, no concrete dates of opening things and no end in site..Also obvs first world problems but having to tell the kids for an entire year "no we can't do this , can't do that etc etc etc ", so sick of it all.

Sooverthis1 · 09/04/2021 20:40

*in sight

Hastybird · 09/04/2021 21:12

I'm exhausted, could just sleep and sleep. Just feel weary of it all - do have some additional factors going on though causing worry with the children. Feel very run down, a bit light headed and low energy but not depressed - just sick of current circumstances.

Jemenfouscompletement · 09/04/2021 21:30

It's called life. Get outside, do some exercise even if it is just a walk with the kids.
You will feel much better.

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DressesWithPockets · 09/04/2021 21:39

@Jemenfouscompletement

It's called life. Get outside, do some exercise even if it is just a walk with the kids. You will feel much better.
I don't find this very helpful. I get outside whenever I can. Yesterday my husband and I had a very rare morning together and we went for a walk. I have a bike and go for 1-2 hr rides when I can. I am always in the park with the kids. My son's school is a mile away and I always walk each way. I often go for walks by myself in the evening if I've been in the house all day. I am a great believer in the power of getting out and stretching your legs, and I've done it all I can over the last 12 months (and the previous 40 years) but I still feel like crap, frankly.
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userxx · 09/04/2021 21:43

@Jemenfouscompletement

It's called life. Get outside, do some exercise even if it is just a walk with the kids. You will feel much better.

No it's not. This is fuck all like my life.

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DressesWithPockets · 09/04/2021 21:44

Thanks to everyone else reassuring me I'm not alone. The point about generational differences (and the fact that resting when you need to sets a good example) is an interesting one.

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daisyjgrey · 09/04/2021 21:47

Yes I feel like this. But my blood is made of sadness and water, so that's probably why.

RowanAlong · 09/04/2021 21:48

I felt like this, but found I was low in iron. Feroglobin rocks!

daisyjgrey · 09/04/2021 21:49

@Jemenfouscompletement

It's called life. Get outside, do some exercise even if it is just a walk with the kids. You will feel much better.
This isn't year 9 double hockey, feel free to drop the 90's PE teacher attitude.
Hastybird · 09/04/2021 22:10

Hmmm...That's not really helpful at all @Jemenfouscompletement. It's not exactly revelatory advice either even if it was. Fresh air! Walk! Be outside!

I've been outside pretty much every day of lockdown, walking, online fitness, board games the works, onwards and upwards etc etc. I still feel like this, utterly knackered. And no, a walk won't help - but thanks!

Macncheeseballs · 09/04/2021 22:13

No, I have lots of energy, but I generally keep very active and exercise most days, indoors or out

Workinghardeveryday · 09/04/2021 22:17

It’s just pure burn out! Your shattered after kids and Covid, cleaning up everyone’s shit, washing, drying, ironing- repeat.
You just need a proper break! Totally normal.
Feel better soon op xx

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DressesWithPockets · 09/04/2021 22:22

Thanks. Yes the domestic workload has increased as everyone is at home all the time making a mess, needing feeding etc. I feel ridiculous though as my husband does his fair share and seems to have more energy than me.

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FlyNow · 09/04/2021 22:34

This is normal I think. I've felt this way since about 15/16 years old. Back then I actually did go to bed for the whole weekend regularly (still felt the same way afterwards).

Cam2020 · 10/04/2021 12:33

Try not to feel guilty, it's been a tough time. I barely recognise myself a lot of the time, I'm just not 'me'.