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AIBU?

To have run out of fucks to give? *Lighthearted!!!*

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:40

We live in the butt end of nowhere, no family nearby (thank you DHs military job). I don't drive and thanks to covid haven't had lessons for a year, so can't easily get anywhere. Luckily we can just scrape by with just my husband working but OMG I never imagined being a sahm for almost 4 years.

Today I am tired, on my period and feel queasy. I am bored out of my head, the weather is shit and I am fed up of the same walk to the park. Also its easter hols so no preschool! Usually I limit screen time to 1 movie in the afternoon plus 45mins of hey duggee after dinner. Ds doesn't like crafts, colouring/drawing, won't attempt to ride his balance bike and baking usually involves him throwing flour around and eating lots of batter... He does play wonderfully by himself though and has a big imagination and most days we get by ok, despite my boredom 😁

But today, I don't know what it is but I just can't face the same things AGAIN! I can't even be bothered with chores, the house is livable and will get messy again anyway...

So AIBU to insist it's a movie day, watching at least 3 and getting a takeaway tonight? All while working my way through the rest of the easter chocolate

Just going to be a shit mum for the day and get to the weekend a bit less stressed and much fatter

Anyone want to join in?

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bluechameleon · 09/04/2021 13:43

That sounds like a perfect day. Go for it. My children are obsessed with playgrounds at the moment. We went to two this morning and they are talking about going to another this afternoon. I am praying for rain so I can put a film on instead.

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RB68 · 09/04/2021 13:43

Def sounds like a plan. You know another driver can take you out for practice with L plates, if you have had a few lessons already this would be really good for practice.

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Boho7 · 09/04/2021 13:48

Phew not just me today then πŸ˜…

Mine are 4 and 5 and we just cant be bothered. They dont want to play or do anything..I did offer some half arsed options lol.

I dont drive either and cant face another day stood around the bloody park! Were on film 3.. not even 2PM so probs got time for 2 more before bed 🀣

I just cannot be bothered to today! X

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:48

@RB68 thanks, yes I have gone out a few times with DH but I am a VERY anxious driver and also have mild dyspraxia so hate practicing with ds with us so are quite limited in when we can go out. It does help though, even just going round the block, but not quite the same as a proper lesson 😊 I start again next week though so I will get there, eventually! 😁

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MrsTophamHat · 09/04/2021 13:50

Sounds perfect if your DS will go for it!

Sometimes I try this but my son can be like a caged animal and I end up even grumpier

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:50

@Boho7 ah thank goodness it's not just me! Just wish I could hop in a car to go and feed the ducks or, better, go to a cafe for a bit of cake and a latte! Once the weather is better things wont be so bad... but can't really justify bus fare just cos I'm bored πŸ˜…

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chickadeeee · 09/04/2021 13:50

Go for it, relax & watch TV πŸ“Ί

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 09/04/2021 13:51

My eldest child is upstairs in his room, i havent seen him since breakfast apart from when i went up to ask if he wanted lunch. He is autistic and happily playing so ive decided to leave him he will come down if he gets hungry (he didnt have breakfast till 10.15)

Middle child has gone to my mums for a sleepover so ive given the toddler an easter egg and shes sat next to me on the sofa watching her tablet whilst i watch shit on TV.

My nan is in hospital receiving end of life care so im really not feeling like parenting today.

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:52

@MrsTophamHat hahaha I'm lucky, I think he would sit on the sofa all day and watch movies 🀣 that's why I am usually strict about it. Means I can get on with other things browse mumsnet is peace I suppose

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:55

Ah @smilingthroughgrittedteeth if anyone has an excuse today it's you, sorry it's so shit atm Flowers. Look after yourself, bit of chocolate and tv sounds just right.

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Latenightreader · 09/04/2021 13:56

I’m having an awful day too so the toddler is playing by herself while I have a sneaky read near by. I had an awful nights sleep last night am sick of not being able to go anywhere (and not feeling safe if I do) and it is taking all my energy not to scream into a pillow!

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Boho7 · 09/04/2021 13:57

@smilingthroughgrittedteethπŸ’

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 13:59

@Latenightreader sometimes I make a game of screaming into a pillow πŸ˜…
"Mummy's turn first!" Aaaaaah "ok now your turn, scream really loud!" Hahaha partly cos ds is going through an annoying screaming phase and partly cos, well, sometimes you need to scream really loudly 🀣

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audweb · 09/04/2021 14:00

You’re not being a shit mum btw, you’re doing what you need to, to cope/manage. Don’t have guilt about having a lazier day.

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 14:04

@audweb thanks, I feel guilty about everything πŸ˜… I know IABU about that but don't think it will ever change. Unless one day I completely run out of fucks to give πŸ€” that might be nice actually 🀣

I think we all need to be easier on ourselves for sure 😊

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wigjuice · 09/04/2021 14:11

Sometimes you just have to give in and have a chill day, it's a good way to get back on track. Mum of 3 boys, always felt I didn't do enough when they were younger. Started to try and remind myself that I was doing a good job and not keep beating myself up all the time. Give yourself more kudos for what you do, most obviously you are a wonderful loving mum ❀

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TheMayQueen · 09/04/2021 14:15

I'm fucked off with everything today.

Is it ok to start drinking? It's Friday after all.

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Crankley · 09/04/2021 14:17

You need this:

To have run out of fucks to give? *Lighthearted!!!*
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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 14:22

@wigjuice thank you ☺

@TheMayQueen its after 12 on a Friday, if it was summer surely you'd be on the pimm's by now? I'm sure there is an acceptable spring time equivalent 🀣

Also I had just started enjoying coach to 5k but then got an injury so can't even run to take away the guilt if all the calories I will ingest today 🀣 so will need to take in even more to make me feel better πŸ˜…

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ThinkYouveHadTooMuch · 09/04/2021 14:23

I've put a film on for my kids (4 and 6) and I've gone to lie on the bed! DH is working in the kitchen so I know they can't come to much harm Wink

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 14:24

@Crankley omg I love that 🀣 I want it on a tshirt πŸ˜‚

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CrumpetsForAll · 09/04/2021 14:27

This is so reassuring to read! I really wish I could take mine to the cinema or a cafe. We did one playground this morning and done baking and now I’ve given them the iPad and gone for a nap with the baby. I’m sure if it was t lockdown I’d have playsates etc lined up for this week but the school hols are bloody hard work rn

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OHthatbanana · 09/04/2021 14:37

@CrumpetsForAll oh lord if I had a baby too I would be very very relaxed on screen time and lazy days, but I would have a great excuse then 😁 rest all you can I say!

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