To think non resident parents should actually spend their time with their children when they have them?

[frustratedtoandfro]

My ex and I share our daughter with this schedule -

Week one - he has her Friday after school till Monday drop off at school.

Week two - he has her Wednesday after school till Thursday drop off at school.

However, he keeps dropping her at his mums whenever he can. For instance last night he picked her up then dropped her for a play date where she had dinner, he then picked her up and dropped her at his mums so he could go do his hobby for an hour - his hobby group also runs a Monday and Thursday so he can go then and he also picked Wednesday night to have our daughter!

Also today he dropped her off at 3pm and she hadn't even had lunch, when I text him about this, his response was, 'Sorry, I thought it was more appropriate to spend some quality time playing with her, especially since she had a late breakfast'. I mean honest to god!

On his weekends she spends most of the days at his mums as he is working. Now he is self employed so he can pick and choose his hours. His business does not need to be carried out every single weekend, he has all during the week and every second weekend to work yet he chooses to work over spending time with her. He fought me for years about weekends and until this past year I had never had a weekend to myself as he just point blank refused to have her weekends.

This changed when I went to a lawyer about a schedule and he was told to split weekends as that was fair.

I'm just so worried though that he's not spending much time with her and how this will affect her. I just think out of the 8 nights he has her a month can he not just dedicate that time to her?

Yes yes to the new girlfriend having them! A close friend of mine was extremely pissed off at her boyfriend he bought his child over the child kept saying mom mom over and over she didn't respond he went apocalyptic saying she was calling for her (my friend) friend responded that she wasn't mom she had just met her! so why should she be called mom? He said your mom if I say you are.....they split up not long after apparently he had made the child call all his girlfriends mom my friend found it uncomfortable and didn't like him dumping the child on her constantly while he carried on doing his thing

I'm torn he is self employed so he can pick and choose his hours
That's notnreally how being self employed works. Try " He's self employed so doesn't have job security and either works when the customer says or doesn't get paid."

Ask him to spend more quality time with her but I don't think he's doing anything atrocious. Do you spend every bit of your time together, together?