I have left some specifics out as this is quite outing. Long story short, my ex bf is a salesman, he is also one of the most horrible people I've ever encountered. He lied, cheated and gaslit his way through our relationship until I finally found out the truth and it really ruined me. He was cheating on me with multiple girls from his work and having online relationships, too. Had an onlyfans and Snapchat account I knew nothing about.
When the relationship ended he tried to cover bits up and keep some of his credibility by telling me that the girls from his work were infatuated and were harassing him. He sent me a copy of a HR letter (signed by a HR advisor) regarding a meeting they 'had' about his sexual harassment in the work place. It was fraudulent and I outed him to his workplace for it and using this woman's signature. He kept his job. He then proceeded to take an overdose of paracetamol and cried 'mental health' was the reason he did all of these things. He was discharged the next day and expected me back and to help him with his 'recovery'. His mother (also batshit) blamed me 🙄 for not believing him, he must've been so desperate to show he was telling the truth.
Anyway, fast forward a few years and my BIL enquires to the company he works for about making a purchase. Names and addresses were provided so ex bf will have known who he was. Ex bf got in touch straight away, offering his help with the purchase. I am furious. I fully expect BIL not to deal with ex bf. There are multiple sales people who could deal with this and BIL could ask to deal with someone else. My sister thinks I'm being a bit unreasonable and I can't tell him what to do. I know that I can't but I have a horrible feeling ex BF has done this intentionally as a 'haha I'm still around' kinda stunt.
AIBU?