To feel that we are not adventurous

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Possibly an early mid life crisis! I feel like we are massively dull and I’m worried that our children don’t get much excitement either.
After moving around a lot before children and before they started school, we now live in the village where DH grew up. Not helped by the fact this village is full of people who are very well off and all of our friends can (pre COVID!) travel with their children and do exciting things. I feel like we are not in a financial position to do this. We rent unlike all of our friends who have bought and DH has lost all of his work due to being self employed in an industry that has suffered due to COVID.
We are both working massively hard to earn a bit more but have now lost any savings we had due to needing to live and pay rent when he hasn’t had work.
Did anyone else get to mid 30s and worry that they haven’t been having an exciting life?!

The word/label makes me cringe, but have a google about 'microadventures'.

You don't have to have oodles of money to spend on foreign holidays to have a more adventurous lifestyle. Learn to climb, go on a hike in a new place each weekend, hire kayaks for the day, take a pottery class, go geocaching, get a Lidl picnic and head to a local beauty spot for a sunset dinner.

www.nationalgeographic.co.uk/travel/2017/12/top-5-microadventures-uk
www.outsideonline.com/2415442/outdoor-activities-ideas-close-to-home-fun
www.familyadventureproject.org/micro-adventures-ideas-videos/

I very much get what you mean! I travelled in my early 20s and thought I’d live abroad, have lots of adventures. I met my husband in London, settled down and bought a house! I’ve also developed a horrendous fear of flying which I’ve allowed to restrict me and I need to master that. I have a lot of very adventurous friends- converting camper vans and taking years out to travel. One building her own house. Working abroad with charities. Living in another country.

I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s okay to want a quiet life. I value the joy in small things, in my day to day life. We still explore, albeit our local area and read large amounts so try to be open minded and adventurous in that way. I sometimes get that fear of missing out and wonder if I’ll regret not doing more when I’m older but I am happy now. I also look at my parents and realise how lucky I am to even consider that when they had a very hand to mouth existence at my age!