"I'd prefer my dc to either pay it all outright or not go.. Or take very small loans"
If it helps for some context:
Less than 5 years ago at uni I took the 9k loan for fees as well as a 4.5k maintenance loan per year. My parents helped me with the rent that was around 4k per year. I also had a 3k interest free overdraft which I paid back when I started work. I know quite a few people who had part time jobs at uni but I didn't need to.
In terms of my loan repayments, I borrowed approx 45k. My balance is now over 50k as the interest charges on my loan are more than the monthly payments.
This sounds scary but in reality it isn't. I pretty much see this loan as something I'm unlikely to pay back - I earn over 40k and my payments are about £60 per month taken directly from my salary before I see it.
The student loan has in no way effected my credit rating or ability to borrow money. Since leaving uni I have acquired a mortgage and a loan for refitting the kitchen and my large student loan has never been a problem. I am much better off having not paid uni fees upfront.
Personally I would take the loans, the repayments are minimal and the 50k+ it would cost would be better spent on a house deposit or invested elsewhere especially if your child is unlikely to receive any large sums of money in the future. I don't think it makes sense to spend inheritance on uni fees.
If you haven't paid it back after 30 years the loan is wiped, and if you don't earn above £27,295 you don't have to pay anything back.
If its decided not to pursue the degree option its worth looking at Apprenticeships. I don't know what your child wants to study but there are quite a few options out there now - MBDA offer ones in Engineering, Software or Business all which give you a qualification, some up to degree level. The Natwest apprenticeship scheme is also quite good. I'm sure there are plenty more.