I just don't understand how people do it. I have tried going low contact but it just doesn't work. My childhood was abusive (mentally, physically and emotionally) when i first -got kicked out- moved out I didn't speak to them for around a year. They moved abroad and every time they come back over to visit they are so needy. It's like they need me to do everything for them. I have a DH, DSD8 and DD1 and they need me to get them this and that, sort this out form them. My DH to sort other things out for them and it just gets too much. They currently want to move back here and they are wanting us to find them somewhere to live. I get that they can't physically look themselves but me and my DH both work full time our free time is spent with DSD and DD. I do have a brother who i have nothing to do with. Although we was brought up in the same house we had very different childhoods. He was gods gift and i was nothing. I think I'm still dealing with a lot that's happened to me so thats probably why things get to me so much. Ive never actually told anyone the full story of what's happened to me growing up. I thought i was over a lot of it until i had my DD.
i suppose I'm just wanting advise on how to deal with things in the future and learning to put boundaries in. It's just so damn hard.
Sorry for the long post.