Friend's constant ghosting

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This is a bit of a random one but I'm not sure what to do.

A friend of mine has a habit of ghosting people out of the blue, especially ghosting on plans. She has lost a few good friends over this - but I'm sort of on the periphery and wouldn't count her as a close friend, just someone I've known a long time and go through phases of seeing more or less often. After another bout of "let's hang out!" texts ending in silence when a date was actually decided on, I kind of gave up and got on with the friends I actually see regularly.

The complicating factor is this friend is also very famous. It shouldn't be a complicating factor but it is because I find I don't call her out in the way I would anyone else. The hierarchy, the money, the recognition, I don't know what it is but it makes it harder and I always come away feeling needy/pathetic.

The other issue is she has now become involved in something with me professionally - being very keen on a project, meeting the whole team, giving it a proper "I'm in" before, you guessed it... ghosting. Now I look like a bit of a Wally because I brought her in. And once again have been let down.

Do I try and properly call/talk it out? Or do I just walk away and not bother speaking to her again because it's not worth the aggro? I hate "giving up" on relationships but it feels like this one is more anxiety than it's worth... And I'm also now in an awkward position re the professional project - I feel like I have to gain clarity on that and at the minute am getting radio silence.

So basically AIBU to kick up a fuss or do I just let them off because they're "busy"/famous?!
("Busy" because aren't we all).

Any thoughts/advice appreciated!

Honestly? Friends make you feel good about yourself and this person doesn’t do that. It sounds as though you’ve given them enough chances. Use your energy on someone who doesn’t ghost you.

That they are famous doesn’t really matter. Re the project, can you just say that you’re embarrassed to say that they haven’t ever come back to you and you don’t think they are going to?

Doesn't matter what someone status is how well they are known. If you are not happy with the friendship and want to say somthing,you should.

If not,just ghost back and let the friendship fizzle out.

Busy famous people who are rude should be called out just as much as a leisured unknown should be. Being flakey is inconsiderate and rude; it also implies the ghoster thinks the person they are ghosting doesnt matter as much as they do.

Can you express your disappointment and point out how badly this reflects on her?

Also, if they’ve met the whole team, you won’t look like a Wally. You would only look like a Wally if you’d talked about it loads but no one had ever met or heard from famous friend.

But I would contact her about the project separately and tell her you have other people waiting for a response and she must be clear.

Famous or not, that's bad behaviour. If she's struggling or doesn't want to take on extra projects or just doesn't want to hang out with you anymore, she needs to tell you that instead of being half in and half out of your friendship.

You need a clear answer on the project - famous or not that’s completely unacceptable. I’d contact them again about this, then just leave the personal side. I can’t stand flaky people.

Time to do some ghosting yourself. As for the project, I think you should tell them that unfortunately she is bit flaky, so you would suggest to just carry on.