Do be a bit irritated by my friend re facebook?

[LaDiDaDi]

Long story...

Friend of mine solit up with her dp about over 2 years ago. Since then she has not had a long-term partner though has had a couple of flings. Friend is unhappy about being single but doesn't really do much about it.

In the summer I went on facebook and posted on the wall of an old school friend of ours. She wanted to know what we were up to so said, I got divorced have new dp and dd. Friend and her ex-p split up and friend currently single.

Friend has now found out about this and is really annoyed as she doesn't want her ex-p to find out that she is single. Whilst I can sort of see her point I'm irritated because I'm sure that he know's she's single anyway as they still live in the same small town etc and secondly she doesn't really do anything about being single so if she's unhappy about the situation she needs to try to resolve it by taking steps that I and others have suggested to meet new people. I just want to go "aargh, I bet he knows that your single and so bloody what if it bothers you that much try any of the things we've talked about!".

She's not a mnetter btw so I don't think that she'll be reading this and identifying herself!

Hmm, I can see her point about personal details about her being put on the internet.

Whether she does anything about being single is her life choice, it doesn't mean she should be happy to have her situation discussed on-line without her knowledge.

Clearly you didn't do this to annoy her, but YABU to be irritated by her response. She's in the right.

Yeah, I probably am confusing my annoyance about her expression of annoyance about being single without doing anything about it with her rights re the internet.

I have apologised to her already and she accepted my apology. Maybe this will make her think more about why it bothers her so much if ex-p knows that she's single or motivate her to do some new activities.

yes, I can see how annoying it is if people moan about being single but do nothing about it! I had a male friend like that - seemed to think that some random woman would arrive in his living room one day without him having to DO anything, then he got all bitter and twisted about women in general when this did not happen

Maybe it will make her think about whether she is going to do anything about the relationship thing! Sounds like you've got over this blip with her anyway if she's accepted your apology