I don’t know what is normal anymore.

[HidingInTheFridge]

My relationship is fucked and my life is exhausting and I have no clue what is normal.

Been with DP for 5 years. He never has any money, doesn’t work, barely helps with DC. He’s verbally abusive towards me, hides me and refuses to have me as a friend on any social media and I’ve noticed things he does that are weird. For example, if he wants something doing he gets me to do it, then if something goes wrong he shouts at me and I feel like he does it as an excuse to blame me.

He takes my money, he’s got me in debt and I have to pay for his stuff. His friends come before me and DC and I am so stuck in a rut of depression and self hatred idk what to do. He’s been absolutely vile to me because he doesn’t get paid from the fucking jobcentre until next Monday and keeps asking me for money. Which I say no to. We live together and I pay for absolutely everything at my own inconvenience. I work 40 hours a week and barely see anything from my own wage.

I know it’s not normal, but I’m so used to this life I don’t know what normal is anymore.

It's not normal, you are in an abusive relationship and need to make a plan to separate

Do you have anyone IRL you can discuss with?

He adds nothing positive to your life. LTB.

He brings nothing to the table

It’s probably time to rethink the relationship, let’s be honest, you’ll be better off without him

You need to leave ASAP!

Women’s Aid can offer advice.

He sounds awful and you would have a happier life without him.

You need to get out.

Contact women's aid.

Do you have any family who would have you? (I don't but asking because some people do).

Hello. He is abusive.
Maybe think about calling the National domestic abuse helpline;
www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/
Or you might have a local DA service.
They can offer advice & support.
All the best, OP. Well done for posting here.

Em why are you with him?

How many kids and what age?

You need to leave him asap! Have you got any friends or family you could stay with?

Woman's Aid and leave via a refuge if need be!

If you rent whose name is on the tenancy?

Come on, you need to be strong and leave this man. Women's aid can I help you but in the end it'll be your own determination that will make it happen.

That’s not normal behaviour. Talk to your family and friends and tell them what’s going on. Contact woman’s aid for advice. You are stronger than you realise. He doesn’t deserve you.

You would be better off without him, financially and in every other way. Get rid.