It's my birthday next week. It's not a milestone one, but because of several things that had happened during the last two years, my parents had paid for us to go and stay with them, abroad, for the week. Obviously, that's not easy right now, and I also started a new job so I am working on the day, but have a few days off next week.
My husband asked me what I wanted, he usually then gives me the money to get it myself.
I really don't want any "stuff" but I said I would like a day out with him and the kids, and maybe lunch somewhere.
He told me to book somewhere then said "Actually, don't. Because we're not going away, I promised my mum I would help her clear her garage out. It's non-negotiable, so your thing will have to wait and see if there's time before the kids go back to school. If not it will have to be a weekend."
His mum has been asking him to clear the garage for three years.
When I said my birthday was non-negotiable, he said "What are you, six?" and stormed off to work.
Apparently., we are "discussing" it when he gets home, by which time I may have calmed down.
So my question is, who's BU? If it's me, I will let it go, if not, I won't because I am sick of him putting off things like his mum's garage, then expecting everyone to drop everything when he runs out of time. (it's a recurring theme).
Please don't reply to tell me you don't celebrate your birthday like I got last time I asked a question. I am referring to my specific situation, who is being unreasonable, me or him?
Thanks