Swearing husband

[Bruce123]

AIBU? My husband swears at everything that even mildly irritates him- examples include the computer taking a bit longer to boot up, packet of rocket lettuce being slightly soggy, the phone ringing when we are sat down to dinner etc etc

I think there’s a time and place for swearing eg hit your thumb with a hammer or banging your head on a low beam. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to rein it in ?

Too fucking right you are

My DH swears a lot more than me. I don't care through as it doesn't bother me

I think my husband is committing bigamy with you. I’m going to have it out with him.

YANBU. Tell him to shut the fuck up.

Your husband?

So you met him, got to know him, and then married him? And just now it’s becoming a problem, such that you expect him to change to suit you?

I wouldn’t like it either, but I’d have figured that out in the early stages of dating, not after years together, and a marriage.

You can ask, but was he like this before you married him?
If he was, you've got no recourse

YANBU

My husband comes from a family that uses swearing in everyday conversation, as do many of his friends. Very common in South London. I let him crack on unless he is being rude to me, in which case I'm rude back.

Fuck yes. Pull the twat up for it. 😂

I swear a lot and would happily call a bag of soggy spinach a cunt, but if he's swearing loudly and angrily and you're feeling threatened or upset by it then that's different.
If you just don't like the words, I wonder whether he's always been like this or suddenly started swearing more? Is it a lockdown thing?

What do we want?

A cure for Tourettes!

When do we want it?

Cunt!

No, he didn’t swear to start with. It has just gotten worse and worse.

YANBU. Mine has got worse and with kids in house I wish he’d stop. He’s frustrated and is easily angered so it’s a larger problem. It’s ridiculous!

@JellyBabiesFan 😂 I say this far too often and nobody has ever heard of it except me

This is me I think in the marriage, I swear. Like a trooper and unfortunately the kids have picked it up as well and I'm really trying to stop but it's not working well !

@Lovewinemorethanhusband

This is me I think in the marriage, I swear. Like a trooper and unfortunately the kids have picked it up as well and I'm really trying to stop but it's not working well !

You can't stop swearing even in front of your kids? Nice. It's not difficult to substitute words. I say this as a mum who used to swear an awful lot previously, it wasn't hard for me to quickly adapt. Unfortunately DD learned the worst listening to her father, uncle and cousins in his care. I would be absolutely mortified if that had come from me.

Are you Scottish? There are huge areas where swearing is used as punctuation up here. He should try not to do it in front of children but otherwise I really couldn’t get worked up.

A bit of swearing doesn’t bother me but if it was constant over every little thing I would say something, I don’t like swearing around young children though at all that is not on.

Grown man, can say what he wants. You dont get to control the words he uses.

I don't swear, but my DH does, like a trouper. As long as it isn't in front of old ladies, customers or childen I don't mind. The odd word slips out now our children are teens, but they hear worse at school. My ex-military Dad will NEVER swear in front of woman or children, which is really sweet.

@JellyBabiesFan

What do we want?

A cure for Tourettes!

When do we want it?

Cunt!

😂😂😂

YABU, I get more annoyed about people who don’t swear or who apologise when they do. It’s just words and as long as he’s not directing it at you then I don’t see the problem.

@getyourfreakon , it shouldn't be hard no however substituting all words I use is !, I still say sh@t and ars@ and try not to use anything stronger in front off the kids it's not normal for people to never swear either !! My children are very well rounded , polite and more importantly they are kind whether they say sh@t occasionally as well I don't really care !! I'm not mortified they learnt it from me as I'm sure you're children would have also picked it up from you as no one who used to swear a lot can stop 100% straight away but it's always easier to blame someone else isn't it

Nope. I can honestly say I haven't sworn within earshot of mine once, even as newborn. Well out of earshot though, I like a good old "for fucks sake" under my breath as often as I can manage it. Usually when someone's shouting "MUUUUUUUMMMM!" from upstairs when I'm downstairs