3 and a half years ago after coming back off my second maternity leave, I was being bullied and undermined at work with threats of restructuring (but nothing concrete). I was also being bullied at home by the children's dad (I have 2, now aged 5 and 9).
I applied for a job 3 hrs away, with more money and responsibility. I got it. After much thought, I decided to take it. For 6 months I commuted. I left the kids with then dp, but I worried about them. I decided to take them with me. I bought a new, much smaller house and started again as a single parent. When we come back and visit friends with kids in the school we left, I have such a lot of guilt. I feel eldest in particular has been so disrupted by moving schools and his old friends have grown without him, whereas he still feels like the new boy in our new place.
I wish I had found a different solution that hadn't wrenched us away from our roots. But on the other hand I have a better job.....