opinions please

[catsandchaos]

DH just got a box out of the shed to wrap something he sold on e bay. He couldn't find the item and rapidly got angry. He was throwing stuff things around the dining room floor whilst searching. He then went to to the box room, which is piled high with his stuff. Found what he had bene looking for and came back downstairs. He then said "Do you know you are moving things without realising it?".
I don't go in the box room. There is nothing in there of mine. I feel gaslighted to be honest

Spithead behaviour.

Obviously 'SHITHEAD'.

Arsehole behaviour

Is losing his temper over something so trivial normal for him?

Knob’ead. Yes

Sounds awful

So it was your fault he couldn't find what he was looking for? What's he like in other areas of your life?

Did any kids witness this ?

What was your response to being the butt of his anger ?

Does he have form for this? Reminds me of guy who recently "lost" the laptop a mnetter needed for uni work.

I'd hate to be accused of not knowing what I was doing like i was going mad that would be v near the knuckle for me having previously had MH issues made worse with baby sleeplessness , is he knowingly poking a finger at a weak spot?

Did he mean in the box room? Or in the dining room? (presuming you do actually go in that room?!).

I quite often mutter (either under my breath or louder!) about things not being where I put them. Sometimes I've moved something and forgotten, but quite often it is someone else who has moved it (probably only a foot or so, or dumped something else on top, or turned over the thing I'm looking for so it looks different..) - that happens when you share a space with other people though I thought?

Did your dc witness his tantrum?

Yes . DS (14) told him to stop bullying me.