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*FUNNY* Tales of undesirables on online dating ....

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77Alex · 04/04/2021 22:48

Just wanted to share a few of the 'delightful' men that I have spoken to recently on online dating:

  • When having our initial (and last!) phone conversation, one man stated how his last girlfriend had repeatedly cheated on him, yet he kept taking her back. She was apparently paranoid that he was cheated on her. Then he said, so one day was just like "fuck off you dick" (this foul language also put me right off)!
  • When messaging about college education, one man called his old, female teacher a 'cunt'
  • One man overloaded me (in our initial text conversation) with details about how he has spent £26,000 getting 'justice' for his son by fighting his ex numerous times in Court over the last 4 years and now lives with his MUM. A very heavy conversation starter!

These are a few of the treats that I encountered on Tinder! I've since (quickly) deleted my account! I just wanted to share a lighthearted post, as if you don't laugh ...... you could cry!
Got to speak to a few frogs to find your prince I suppose!

AIBU in wanting to have a slightly normal conversation with a like minded man? Haha!

Does anyone else have strange/weird/funny stories?

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VanGoghsDog · 04/04/2021 22:52

If you're put off by bad language then dating apps really are not for you. Not sure Mumsnet is either - are you new?

Not really sure why a divorced man living with his mum is funny, it's pretty common

You sound judgemental.

littlepattilou · 04/04/2021 22:54

I haven't got any tales ,as I have been with DH for over 30 years (since my early 20s,) and have never done online dating. I look forward to reading other peoples stories though. Smile

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77Alex · 04/04/2021 22:58

@VanGoghsDog

If you're put off by bad language then dating apps really are not for you. Not sure Mumsnet is either - are you new?

Not really sure why a divorced man living with his mum is funny, it's pretty common

You sound judgemental.

Not put off by bad language, but having an initial phone conversation with a potential date and the bluntness of "fuck off you dick" was a bit of a shock for me.

It's just a lighthearted post :-)

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Northofsomewhere · 04/04/2021 23:00

I've only tried online dating once when I was about 21 (now late 20's) when I was living very rurally. There was only 1 result, a guy I already knew who was known for smoking weed, being rather lazy and had already made fun of my accent because apparently he had family from my county. I deleted the account there and then and haven't bothered since. It's probably very mild compared to some of the stories people have.

@77Alex I'd be put of by bad language in a first meeting/conversation. Also I think you are allowed to judge to an extent, first impressions are important and with online dating you're meeting in the hope of forming a relationship and there's so many options (normally, clearly not in my case) that you have to make some judgements about the people you contact to work out if you want to meet up.

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77Alex · 04/04/2021 23:00

@VanGoghsDog

If you're put off by bad language then dating apps really are not for you. Not sure Mumsnet is either - are you new?

Not really sure why a divorced man living with his mum is funny, it's pretty common

You sound judgemental.

Apologies, I didn't realised I had capslocked the whole word 'MUM' that was an accident. Of course plenty of people have to move back with parents after a separation. No issue with that at all, it was the offloading of a very heavy situation before we even knew what each others hobbies were!

:-)

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Myyearmytime · 04/04/2021 23:07

Meet some very ... " interesting " chatting online dating .
The transvestite and convict murder where high light ..

ILikeTheWineNotTheLabel · 04/04/2021 23:10

Not OLD, but my favourite set of revelations on a second date with a guy I met at a work event were:

  1. Undischarged bankruptcy
  2. As a result of his coke addiction
  3. Using parents retirement funds to set up a (risky, sharp end) business in in his sisters name as he couldn’t be a director as a bankrupt
  4. That was the second business he’d set up in his sister’s name, the first was so his wages from his second job would be there for him when his bankruptcy ended, the second job as a bouncer at a strip club
  5. He got into that because he used to be in porn films
  6. And before that a driver/security for escorts, which he got into as a way to ensure his coke
supply
  1. He didn’t date really, just had a roster of current and ex-working girls who he knew through the trade and if any of them ever called needing a servicing he’d oblige.
CirqueDeMorgue · 04/04/2021 23:13

I've only done it briefly but everyone i spoke to seemed nice and 'normal,' including the one guy I met with. Although he did want the third 'date' to be at his and I didn't feel anything for him, was worried he'd try it on and so that was that.

Snowfalling · 04/04/2021 23:14

@ILikeTheWineNotTheLabel

I'm snorting at the litany of disasters of this one single man. What is he, a human wrecking ball?

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 04/04/2021 23:15

I once met someone online who would ask for funny stories on a global parenting forum because they couldn't be arsed to do the research for their newspaper article themselves.

LadyRenoir · 04/04/2021 23:16

I went on a date with a guy who... Just came from a lecture in a museum done by his ex. He talked about her all the time... I met him again (why???) and he keep on slipping comments about how she was the smartest girl he had every known etc. Clearly had not got over her.

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77Alex · 05/04/2021 20:17

@ILikeTheWineNotTheLabel

Not OLD, but my favourite set of revelations on a second date with a guy I met at a work event were:
  1. Undischarged bankruptcy
  2. As a result of his coke addiction
  3. Using parents retirement funds to set up a (risky, sharp end) business in in his sisters name as he couldn’t be a director as a bankrupt
  4. That was the second business he’d set up in his sister’s name, the first was so his wages from his second job would be there for him when his bankruptcy ended, the second job as a bouncer at a strip club
  5. He got into that because he used to be in porn films
  6. And before that a driver/security for escorts, which he got into as a way to ensure his coke
supply
  1. He didn’t date really, just had a roster of current and ex-working girls who he knew through the trade and if any of them ever called needing a servicing he’d oblige.
Oh wow! I bet your brain was overloaded with all this information! What a date!
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Mylovelyhorsee · 05/04/2021 20:22

Your examples aren’t funny op.

ILikeTheWineNotTheLabel · 05/04/2021 20:25

Yes, he was a hit of a clusterfuck.

I forgot to add that he was again using over telling his sister that his BIL had cheated on her several times when they went on trips to watch rugby. He also said he knew BIL did it deliberately to test his loyalty, whether he could trust him. He knew his sister would leave if he told her, and BIL was rich enough she could keep horses and she loved her horses, so he was scared she would lose them.

Covered a lot of ground over a pizza. I didn’t stay for dessert or coffee. When the waitress said “Anything else?” I said “Just my coat thanks”.

Lockheart · 05/04/2021 20:27

Who are you writing an article for?

mnahmnah · 05/04/2021 20:27

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ContentsMayBeHot · 05/04/2021 20:44

To be honest, I'm not sure if you come off any better than the men in your OP.

CSIblonde · 05/04/2021 20:49

A few cross dressers only interested in the contents of my wardrobe ( gym wear & leggings so theyll be lucky). Lots with v bad financial difficulties. Lots of men who don't read your profile because they're only after regular sex. Im not bothering any more tbh. I don't know if it's a London thing , but men my age want a 30year old whose size 10 & up for sex on the first date or they aren't interested. (Got told it point blank more than once when discussing 'your perfect partners'. Wasn't like that when I did OLD in my semi rural home town.

ufucoffee · 05/04/2021 20:50

OP I've done OLD in the past and f anyone was swearing during chats I'd get rid. Just bad manners when you don't know someone. I also wouldn't go out with anyone who lived with their mum. I was looking for someone who was well past the just divorced/split up phase.

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