AIBU weight comment?

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Just for background my DM is quite overweight, 2 siblings are not and me and my DSis are currently overweight (we yo-yo between being 1-2 stone over a healthy weight)
Yesterday my DM came to visit and remarked I looked like I'd lost weight (I haven't, I know because I've weighed) so was either the outfit i was wearing or good angle etc. She told me my Dsis has put on weight recently.
She then went on to say oh I dont like it when you or your Dsis put on weight you look much better slimmer. She laughed and said she knows she's not one to talk knowing she is overweight too. AIBU to think this is rude or at the very least none of her business?

I suppose im not so offended by what she said as I know she says it kind of lighthearted in her mind I suppose but it's more that why does it even need to be said? I didn't start the conversation, I dont like to talk about anybody's weight all the time and my DM often makes these types of comments to me.

Is it rude?

I wouldn't let this upset you op.

It is true than in general people do look better when slimmer, clothes fit nicer etc.

I’ve never understood why people feel the need to comment on weight at all but I couldn’t get worked up about the comment - just a lighthearted remark and she acknowledged she’s overweight too. Doesn’t sound like it was made nastily.

My mother does this, always tells me if I've put on weight! when she's very overweight herself but then she's never had anything nice to say about me, rude I'd say.

Why people need to comment on other peoples weight is beyond me. Ignore it. Ur weight is no ones business.

Yes she is rude. Ask her has she nothing interesting to think about.

I don’t think anyone should comment on anyone’s weight but if you have yo-yo’d over the years it could be her way of worrying about your health.

My ‘d’m does this all the time, keeps banging on about how I could eat a whole cauliflower to lose weight (yum! 🤢) Trouble is, I did lose an awful lot of weight then put it back on but when I lost it, I was doing sport twice daily, now I can’t due to mobility issues.

She’s rude, OP, don’t let her bother you. I’d be tempted to tell her to be quiet given she’s overweight herself.

@paranoidandroidmarvin1350 that's the way I feel too, I mean we all notice sometimes that friends/family lose or put on weight but does it need to be mentioned unless relevant or that person wishes to discuss it.
My DM will often say something to me about so and so who has put on weight etc and I just think so what, why does it always need to be spoken about.

Absolutely no need to comment on weight. I used to get "you look healthy" from an aunt when I'd put in weight. It really annoyed me.

She is being very rude, and these kind of comments can be really unpleasant if you hear them all the time.

My mum used to always comment on how much food I had in my plate (it was a lot, but still she was being rude). One time when she did I snapped at her, and she did try to make out like it was nothing, but luckily she has never said anything since. I know not all mums will take it that way though!

Maybe you could just try to have a standard thing you say. For example, 'I don't want to discuss my/DSis/anyone's weight with you.' After a while get a bit more pissy with her - I have made it perfectly clear...

She is being very rude and I don't understand why people think they can talk to their daughters like this.

Give her a taste on how her comment feel, she won't like it, she'll probably get upset, she'll learn too.
Did the bad diet start in childhood? If yes I'd hit her with that.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, I don’t think it’s polite to comment on people’s weight - well intentioned or otherwise.

Because that's what mothers do? Comment on your weight, hair, clothes, house whatever.
My mother was skinny and I've always battled the bulge. She couldn't help herself. I often said to her did she really think her comments helped?
It's obviously her obsession.

Yes my mother makes comments about my weight all the time! My sister doesn't speak to her now due to lots of issues but the weight thing was one of the reasons.

My mother has been big throughout all of her adult life. My sister and I were thin throughout our childhoods but then we both put on a lot of weight as adults which our mother LOVED!

My sister actually confronted her once and said that she didn't like all the negative comments about her weight and she responded with "well that's just what mothers do!" She never made comments to my sister since then but she would always make her feel uncomfortable by looking her up and down in disgust. They don't speak now.

Just yesterday during a family BBQ, my mother told me that my white cardigan that I was wearing made me look like a 'huge white marshmellow' whilst laughing about it. She also told me that I looked HUGE when she saw me sitting in the passenger seat of a car the other day. A few years ago my mother did slimming world and lost roughly 2 stone - I bumped into her in Tesco and I complimented her and told her how great she looked. She loved the compliment but then responded with "Well I'm sorry to say but your arse looks huge!" Then walked off gloating.

My sister and I put it down to insecurity and issues with herself as she's always been big! The comments obviously make her feel much better about herself.