To have had enough of being spoken to like this

[Nightimesleeper]

Posting on here for advice. I'm at my wits end with this problem and dont know what to do. Me and dp have a 4 month old (ftm). In general were doing okay, but nights like last night I just cant deal with anymore. Were fortunate that our dc sleeps well for the most part, but on the odd occasion she has what I call blip nights. Last night was one of them. She didnt settle for more than a couple of hours and between me and dp we were both up trying to sort out the issue. My problem here, is that dp doesnt do well with lack of sleep. He gets extremely aggravated and takes it out on me and the baby and I cant stand it anymore. We both agreed it was a sleep regression, but he keeps getting fixated on the idea our baby needs solids to keep them sleeping during the night. I've told him many times all my professional healthcare advise only starting at 6, but if he was that adamant to speak to a professional himself and get the okay. Only then would I feel comfortable going against what we have been told. So last night again he insisted we needed solids in the picture, but be likes to convey this through a rude manner and tone. I told him I'd rather not talk about this again (it was 2 in the morning) as I knew it would escalate. This morning he woke up and as always he acted like he wasnt rude to me during the night and told me not effectively get over last night and not let it ruin our day. He apologised( as always) but then proceeded to have ago at me again. He doesnt appriecate I've also been up with dc and tired and the last thing I want is someone telling me off. Apparently me trying to dismiss the conversation at 2am which I thought was the right thing to do was me picking an argument. So now I'm spending Easter away from him because I'm sick of the constant cycle. Rude at night, apologises, promises wont do it again and repeat. I understand when your tired it's hard, but I'm not speaking to him like that so surely I can expect that back. I just dont know what to do, there.will be many nights like this to come and I cant always be the punching bag. His apology is meaningless if he doesnt actually stop this behaviour. And they especially dont count if he says sorry but the continues to argue with me again!

He is a douche bag op...

Tag team, tag team, tag team. Firstly you'll get more sleep, secondly fewer chances to fight.

His info is out of date. 4m is a tricky age full stop.

I think the starting solid foods is a red herring. You have a dp problem. He needs to step up and help out without taking it out on you. You are a team. What if you start solids and the baby still doesn't sleep? There are many more sleep regressions to come.

Four months old is fine to start introducing solids, in fact newer studied have shown it can reduce allergies, but both of yoy should be comfortable with this. www.newscientist.com/article/dn28366-should-babies-be-given-solids-earlier-to-prevent-food-allergies/

*studies

Take it in turns to get up with the baby, that way you’ll both get more sleep and less chance of arguing.

Advice in the UK is 6 months. Get him to phone your health visitor and confirm

Your partner is an immature, ignorant prick. Your baby is too young for solids, and lack of sleep is part of parenting, so he can stop be such a fucking twat and deal with it. He sounds very unattractive.

When that doesn't work, what do you think his next excuse will be?

Oh God, typical 'my opinion is right even with nothing to back it up' BS! Show him the evidence is clear.

So I left the house as I refused to have to play happy families for Easter whilst I'm clearly not. I told dp I will not stand to be talked to like that by him and to call me when he had a long think. Got a half arsed apology call saying he was "just in a mood" and find it's hard when he is half asleep to not be rude apparently. He is still insisting that 4 to 6 months for solid is right even though he knows my hv and midwives have all specified 6. He keeps reading these outdated articles on random health websites but I've told him it's only the nhs site that I'm going by. He then asked if I was coming back for family dinner even though he technically has said crap all. He sounded like a kid being made apologise after being told off. So livid. First Easter with dc is ruined. Yet again I'm spending it alone.