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Best friend not answering calls or texts!

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SquarePeggyLeggy · 04/04/2021 09:09

My bestie and I have been friends for 30 years, she’s more like a sister. We talk every day in some way, either phone call or just a short text. It’s always been this way.

She’s been on a trip (it’s allowed where we are) and until 5 days ago, she was sending me pics etc. Then... nothing. I know she had a long drive ahead of her in Easter traffic. But she should have been home on Friday.

Its now Sunday, and I’ve heard literally nothing from her. This is HIGHLY out of character. I tried to call her this morning and it went to voicemail. I sent a text saying: I’m starting to get concerned. This was about 10 hours ago. I just tried again and the call was hung up on (went to voicemail after two rings).

AIBU to be a bit worried by now and try to contact her sister? Or is it harassment. Or maybe a stolen phone?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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bonfireheart · 04/04/2021 09:10

I would text her sister.


Palavah · 04/04/2021 09:10

Can you email her or mesaage via FB? Check with anyone else who may have heard from her?


MalibuandOrange · 04/04/2021 09:10

Seeing how close you are I'd ask the sister, it'd be weird if you hadn't known each other for years but given she's like a sister. Hope she's okay.


EarringsandLipstick · 04/04/2021 09:10

I'm sure everything's fine but I can see why you'd be concerned.

Not harassment to check in with her sister, I think.

Hopefully it's an innocent explanation - lost / stolen phone most likely.


Fatladyslim · 04/04/2021 09:11

I'd be driving to her house by now 🤷‍♀️


Magnificentmug12 · 04/04/2021 09:11

Of course you should pursuit it and find out if she is ok, as you say it’s out of character so something is up.


HelloDaisy · 04/04/2021 09:12

That does sound very odd and I’d be worried too.
I would try to contact her sister first and see if she’s heard from her.


Magnificentmug12 · 04/04/2021 09:12

If she lives close I’d go over to her house. If she is not in then call the sister


ElderMillennial · 04/04/2021 09:13

Does she live nearby? Can you go and knock on her door?


Magnificentmug12 · 04/04/2021 09:13

Surly you would rather be accused of being harassing than have it on your conscious that you did nothing if something bad has happened.


Thesagacontinues · 04/04/2021 09:15

I'd definitely be checking with her sister.


SquarePeggyLeggy · 04/04/2021 09:16

She just messaged!! She left her phone at her accommodation!! I am so relieved I nearly cried! Thanks so much everyone.

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iMatter · 04/04/2021 09:17

Do you live near her?

I would also agree with pp about checking with her sister.


ElderMillennial · 04/04/2021 09:17

Pleased she is ok OP


iMatter · 04/04/2021 09:17


She just messaged!! She left her phone at her accommodation!! I am so relieved I nearly cried! Thanks so much everyone.


CuthbertDibbleandGrubb · 04/04/2021 09:19

I'm glad to read everything is OK. And to read of your love and kindness shown by your concern.


JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 04/04/2021 09:20

Thank God for that OP! It's horrible when that shock of WHERE ARE THEY happens but at least she had a brilliant friend like you Thanks

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