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To be upset about my 40th?

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MotherForker · 03/04/2021 22:10

I know I am, I know its a ridiculous thing to be sad about.

I'm turning 40 in 3 weeks. So already it was to be a smaller affair, just 6 of us having a meal/drink out. Which I had accepted. But now it is unlikely to happens at all.

I got my decree absolute in March, feel like I should be starting my new life. Then a week ago I ended up in hospital with heart problems. Probably pericarditis, although I still need some tests. I was discharged yesterday and have to rest for 4-6 weeks. And it is proper rest, I can barely make a cup of tea without needing a lie down.

And I'm just sad about spending my birthday at home alone, drinking tea in my dressing gown.

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Haggisfish · 03/04/2021 22:11

No you’re not. But I would make plans for when you are better and can meet more people. I celebrated my 40th six weeks after the day.


Superstardjs · 03/04/2021 22:14

Assuming your friends are lovely, why can they not mobilise things, while you recline like Cleopatra in your garden? Just tell one/all of them the situation and let them pander to you a bit.


MotherForker · 03/04/2021 22:16

I hadn't considered it as its a weekend I have the dc, so my parents were going to babysit. But I will see if I can do that (without them interrupting every 5 mins!)

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Lalliella · 03/04/2021 22:34

Aww that is sad OP. So many celebrations having to be postponed atm, including my DS’s 18th but grim for you to have health issues too. My best friend was 40 last year during lockdown, she lives an hour away and I’m going to host her a party but she’ll be 41 before we can do it. Just be like the queen and have an official birthday another time. Or a birthday year! I hope you overcome your health problems, and happy birthday.


Trustisamust · 03/04/2021 22:43

My 40th was at the height of the pandemic so strict lockdown. It was shit. I was dreading the day anyway, and it was even worse because of everything on top!!
I cba'd to celebrate it again (don't see the point) but ateotd it's only a day.
I was also supposed to be getting married but it's been postponed more times now than I can remember and so we've just decided to give up on the idea as there will be zero availability when things finally do reopen.
It's second marriage for both of us anyway and we have a baby together so no hurry really. We will probably get round to it at some point Smile

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