To feel a bit sad lockdown is ending but we have no one to see?

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Everyone is talking about their plans to see family this weekend in gardens etc and I've realised we won't be seeing anyone. Our family is far away. We have lots of friends but not any real close ones. We have one dd ( wanted more but didn't happen). I feel quite sad as I am seeing pictures of lots of kids having egg hunts on social media. I think I need to make more effort for my daughters sake to try and make more close friends to replace the lack of family nearby

Anyone else feel like this?

My family are far away too so won’t be seeing anyone. But this has been the theme for the last year so although it’s Easter it doesn’t feel much different. I’ve had a baby in the last year and it’s been the hardest time watching all my friends with children making support bubbles and childcare bubbles so they can carry on seeing family and we haven’t had that option. Roll on May when we can finally meet indoors!

I would agree that making friends nearby is a good idea. It’s easy to just bumble along working and then relaxing at the weekend but inviting another family to your garden or for a walk can be great for everyone and if you don’t like the adults that much it’s at least worth it for the kids.

it is a long weekend and often used to meet family, go away,
and this year, we can't.

You have a partner and a child, you are already in a much more fortunate position than many that have gone through this pandemic alone, and have next to no one to see when lockdown ends. Count your blessings OP, and if your going to compare yourself to others (which is pointless really) then compare yourself to the people who would love to be in your fortunate position.

Yes feel the same, not real close family anymore and my dd is an only child. Feel very guilty.

We haven’t really done anything either. I’m not really close to my family and whilst I used to think I had a group of really close friends, The way the Support bubble and 2 household rule has worked out means that we have been left out of All of this weekends plans. Lots of photos on social media of all the good fun they are having and we are sat at home on our own. I’m really sad about it.

Both families 100 miles away and no friends. So just another day for me.

DH might bike over to his family next weekend and I will go see mine sometime soon, albeit outside in the cold.

Yeah. I know. My family who we see each Easter and other holidays are 125 miles away. We’re not going as we are 6 And us going would take things way over the allowed numbers. So we’re planning on going up next month instead. They’re still getting together. And I’m happy for them. They rang yesterday and were lovely and send us money for the kids for their Easter eggs.
We’re going out for the day, just us 6. I large castle garden place. I’ve made Easter rocky road and will take hot chocolate. We’re really looking to it.

I think the issue we have (2 adults 4 kids) is that we’re too many. Even before covid. So we don’t always get invited to things with friends. I used to have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about it. But not now and not for a year or two. I’m happy with just us. And the occasional group stuff (pre covid of course).

But we’re happy to wait until we can see them on mass at high days and holiday. Like we used to.

But I sympathise and totally get it. It used to get under my skin and eat away at me. Triggered things in me.

I think be a step ahead. And plan things yourselves.. the three musketeers!

I think all our family sizes come with their hurdles at times.

Most of my family live in Hong Kong and America, the few in England live 250 miles away. I last saw many of them for a big family wedding in August 2019. DH family live 200 miles away and his sister lives in Spain. It will be a long time till we see family unfortunately. I was ok until Chinese New Year when I really felt terrible for a couple of days. I panicked and worried I would possibly never see family again if any of them died and my siblings are much older than me. We usually have friends round and I spend three days cooking and doing prep.

Same here. I need toddler groups to open up properly again so I can try and make some mum friends.

Yes, I feel like this. Am sat here with my little DS trying to hide my tears

Yes - single, no kids, live alone. I actually avoided the park this weekend as i didn't want to see all the groups meeting.

Deactivate Facebook and focus on feeling grateful for what you do have. for you, I have spent many mothers days easters etc feeling similar and once I stopped fb and insta and just decided to have a great time just as we were, it was a lot better.

My family are 200 miles away, not seen them since October half term, would normally have seen them at Christmas, February half term and then I normally go on holiday with my sister at Easter.

Went through a shitty divorce during lockdown last year, DCs split time between idiot ex who now lives with his affair partner.

Just a normal day for me - another walk, on my own as friends I see are busy with family things. Bit of gardening. Trying not to get too fed up with it all.

You're not alone 💐

You are not alone. Family are 5 hours away and since we moved I don't have the popping round each other's houses type friends. I have one son and we went on an egg hunt yesterday and will do a mini one in the garden but agree life just seems flat. I would love to have my mum round the garden for a cuppa.

Sorry you are feeling sad OP.
But on the Easter egg hunt, we only have one child and got some really good pics of him doing an Easter egg hunt this morning!

we are the same. dd is in a care home(disabled) so nothing has changed for us.

Yup.... family hundreds of miles away. Single. No kids. good friends abroad, not many here. Alone since March 2020 and lockdown lifting won’t change that. Scared at how lonely my life is 😢

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Yup.... family hundreds of miles away. Single. No kids. good friends abroad, not many here. Alone since March 2020 and lockdown lifting won’t change that. Scared at how lonely my life is 😢