Clomping around the house

[LadyOfLittleLeisure]

I know I'm being a bit unreasonable because I like home to be as quiet as possible (although never happens with our young DC) but DH's clomping around is driving me mad! It's always been bad but I swear it's getting worse.

Even without shoes he stomps everywhere, every cupboard is slammed shut, then there is the unreal clumsiness. Every few hours there's an almighty crash and I'll ask him what it is and he'll respond 'oh something just fell over', I've never been in another house where things just fall over. He turns every device on for 'background noise' and then puts his headphones in! In the grand scheme of things it's not the end of the world but I am finding it really stressful. I have spoken to him before a few times but WIBU to ask him to seriously cut it out?

My DH can sound like a 30 ton troll making it's way up our wooden stairs even in socks! He slams every drawer in the bedroom in the morning (6am) and is generally loud. I wince a lot but i can cope.

The leaving loads of things on for background noise - he doesn't do that and that would piss me off. He's not prone to knocking things over either. That would piss me off too.

So - YANBU.
Maybe have a word (at a time when you're not angry) about him trying to go about the house a bit more gently. I'd be turning all the 'background noise' stuff off once the earphones went on. How annoying!

@Laiste it is quite annoying, it also genuinely startled me when stuff 'falls over' . I'll try to talk to him in a bit, he's quite defensive about it.

Could he be dyspraxic?

How have you survived the last year?

If he cant/won’t change, or he can’t see the problem, perhaps you need to consider how you can get quiet for the rest of your life.

My DH is loud. It’s impossible for him to whisper or do anything quietly (breathe, eat, move). It drives me mad. I wonder if it’s because he is physically larger than me?

I’m sorry I don’t have the answer but I feel your pain.

@LucyLocketsBlackCat I am certain he is, but he won't get tested for anything.

Thanks for the replies - I am not sure how I have survived the year tbh 😅

I am really glad others would find this annoying though and it's not just me being precious about it. I'm going to talk to him tonight because even while I was putting youngest to bed there was another loud bang from downstairs!

Mine even sleeps noisily. He keeps me up a good proportion of every night. It's affecting my health badly.

He snores, switches to going mmmm with every in and out breath, switches to guinea pig style chirping and grunting, back to snoring, switches to snuffling, switches to gurgle breathing, back to snoring, moaning, talking, jiggles about making the bed shake and creak. All the while I am trying to dodge his pointy elbows which he loves to slam into my eyeball or, if I am facing him, he'll bring it down with force, put all his body weight on it and crush my arm cutting off my already poor circulation. At the same time I have to dodge his bent knee doing similar to my leg or wildly flailing his foot about with his evisceration level uncut toenails. I spend every night with the aforementioned soundtrack, afraid of being blinded, having my ulcer prone legs cut open or getting paralysed by landing on his hidden pointy elbow when I get up to pee.

No spare bedroom nor sofa big enough so I am stuck.

Then there is the running water noise while he is awake. Taps blasting or bog flushing every few minutes he is home and awake. The bloke is a one man water shortage.

Then he comes and starts talking at me the second he is finished doing whatever, even if he can see I am doing something already. Speak his name when he is so much as pouring a drink though and huffing and sighing ensue.

@AriseMyPretties are we married to the same man? The talking thing, I feel so cruel saying it, but it's literally incessant! I cannot wait for lockdown to be properly eased so I can get out a bit more.

@AriseMyPretties could you swap your double bed for two singles so that at least you have your own space? It sounds awful.