Not sure what the point of this post is really. Been with dp 10 years and 2dc.
I have a difficult relationship with my family as they are toxic for various reasons but I’ve only really opened my eyes to it the last year few years. They are also loud and like to be centre of attention. Wherever they go just draw attention to themselves purposely whereas I am the total opposite. Very argumentative and will pick arguments with anyone even strangers. I cringe at their behaviour at times I we’ve been out in public with them. They are also nasty people. They often make nasty remarks about people they don’t even know at they walk by etc and the gossip. They just gossip about everyone. Basically act like their s**t don’t smell kinda thing.This is what I grew up with, didn’t realise how bad it was til after I grew up. I don’t enjoy their company at all. When we see them I feel on edge the whole time wanting to get away.
Thankfully covid has meant we haven’t had to deal with them much.
Now it comes dp’s family. Mil can be a bit of a ‘I know everything about my son and grandkids’ kinda woman but she means well but they are generally much more pleasant than mine, I really enjoy their company and feel sad when we leave. It makes me realise how not normal my family were and still are.
But I have this sense of guilt. Guilty that I enjoy time with my in laws more than my own family. I don’t think I’ve ever made it obvious to my family but I’m starting to favour spending Christmas etc with them. Covid meant we didn’t that stress last year.
Aibu just to avoid my family as much as possible?? I don’t mean completely cut them off but reduce it to maybe once every month or two. My brothers and sisters all live at home and they aren’t much better. I think they take after their father - my mums husband and my mum. I think I must take after my own father more - even though I barely know him.
So like I say not really sure what the point of this is but I just feel so poop that I’m avoiding my family as much as possible now we can meet with another family but would happily see my partners family regularly.
Lockdown has really made me realise how happy I am when I’m not obliged to see my family.
Advice?