To dislike background music? 🤣 (I know I’m totally miserable!)

[Maddie2019]

Ladies, I genuinely think I’m going slightly insane but I HATE constant sound! My DH loves his music and will play it in the background 24 hours a day. Now I’m not talking some gentle sounds, it’s Hiphop, drum and bass, rap, eugh!! Am I being unreasonable for this driving me loco? I wake up at 7 in the morning enjoying the peace before work, he wakes up and then puts his music on. I come home from work, music is on. I’m watching tv, music is on (headphones are a no go apparently because he likes listening when he’s walking around the house, we have a google speaker upstairs and downstairs that play simultaneously!) He says I’m miserable, and I feel like I am being a grumpy git but I wish for peace and quiet!

The worst is when I come home from work, TV is on and up, tablets are on and playing, music on the google speaker is on and his laptop is playing!

By the way we live In a small 2 bed end terraced house so there is honestly no way to escape it 🤯We have been together eight years and it’s never really bothered me before, must be the lockdown and constant staying at home with it! 🤯

Tell him he can mix his music to his hearts content when you leave him for being a selfish idiot
Your update makes it worse tbh

Let’s hope he gets over his phase before you get over the phase of putting up with a man child

YANBU - he is being quite inconsiderate. I can’t concentrate if there is background noise. I like music but I like silence too.
@Trivium4all my mum is a musician too and she hates background music!
OP I hope you can find a compromise.

@ForTheLoveOfWine yes it’s going to appear that way! 🤣 but in all seriousness, it makes me feel like such a boring bugger 😅

@shouldistop I’m guessing I’m trying to be more “laid back” to things, whereas I’m actually being a push over. I hate hate hate nagging at him, makes me feel like his mother!

Asking him to do something isn't nagging. Men made up the term nagging so they could ignore their partners asking them to do perfectly reasonable things.

What else do you nag him about?

It’s not boring having a partner that is willing to compromise when the other doesn’t like something they do....
It’s not boring having a partner that would stop something if it really bothered the other. It’s boring being stuck with a selfish man child who thinks they are more important

It's not boring to not want to listen to music 24/7 though. It's actually very normal. He's not going to stop is he, so you either live with it for the next 50-60+ years or move out and live in blissful peace.