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Unnecessary purchases

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MediocreButter · 01/04/2021 16:27

Sorry for the crap title, couldn't think of a better one!

So, this is a light-hearted post, as I'm not annoyed about the situation, simply looking for a way to deal with it without coming across as rude.

Basically, my MIL keeps buying DC items that I would deem unnecessary. She is a known hoarder, and loves to shop, therefore her house is filled with what I would deem as crap, but that's her business of course.

Ever since DC was born, she has become fond of buying DC items for any reason at all. Every time we visit she pretty much has something new for DC, and we visit several times a week.

Buying him clothes is fine because he'll get used out of them, but we also have received several baby egg cup sets, teddies, ornaments for him in general etc., not to mention that she pretty much decorated his room by buying everything for it (this annoyed me tbh, but that's another story!).

I'm very much the type of person who throws everything in the bed when it's no longer of use to me, as I hate keeping things that I don't need.

Would it sound very ungrateful if we asked her to dial back on the purchases? Or do I just take the items and pass them on to someone who would make use of them/a charity shop?

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BerniesMittens · 01/04/2021 16:30

Think you need to say to cut it back as you want your dc to appreciate visiting her to be with her, not for what she may give them.


beginningoftheend · 01/04/2021 16:34

I think you need to be honest and tell your DP - who is responsible for communicating with their mother - to tell her to stop.

Anything that you don't want - charity shop.


Notaroadrunner · 01/04/2021 17:01

I'd get your Dh to ask her to stop buying dc gifts unless it's for birthday or Christmas. Tell her if she continues to buy things you will not be able to keep them as you simply have too much stuff. If she ignores the request start leaving the stuff at her house for your dc to use when they visit.

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