Emergency help to get out of abuse

[Songbird583]

I've made a thread before under a different name. Trying to help dm get out of an abusive relationship with my dad. The family house is being sold but my dad is refusing to sign the contract to confirm the selling price unless dm pays him x amount of money. It's in the tens of thousands. She does not owe nor have this money and he knows it. If she doesnt pay today the house sell falls through and she is stuck with him. Either way it's a win win for him. I've tried womans aid and havent been able to get through, the same with domestic aid helpline. Dm is too vulnerable to seek legal help and theres no time for that. I need help and advice and I need it fast!

Family law centre or the police your DM is being threatened and blackmailed.

Can you call the solicitor handling the sale to tell him your mother is being coerced?

If he won't agree to the house sale (and I've known someone else who did this) then your mum will have to go to court and ask them to give her alone the power to put the sale through.

Obviously this'll take another year though before it goes through court :(

Are they married? Could you ask your father if he would be happy for the money to be 'held at the solictors'? Buy some time to finish their negotiation or get a court agreed split?

When I left my exh and we sold our flat - the sale was about to complete and our financial agreement wasn't back from court. Our solicitor explained that was fine as they would hold the money in a separate account until our agreement came back.

He is doing this for control of course but maybe trying to get some more time might allow a better outcome.

Also - if they pull out this late are their financial implications ?

There's a scam going round at the moment whereby you can convincingly make it look like you've transferred money via online banking to the intended recipient without actually sending it. It's getting more common for things like facebook marketplace deals etc. It happened to my friend last week.

I'm reluctant to post details because if it went wrong and he found out before signing, I'd dread to think what this person might be capable of. Tricking an abuser is never a good idea if there's the slightest chance it could go wrong.

Could you call the solicitor and ask them to speak to your dad, lay on thick about how much money will be lost in fees etc if it doesn't go through today?

@Bearnecessity

Family law centre or the police your DM is being threatened and blackmailed.

I would agree with this. Is the CAB a possibility? I'm not sure if she is being extorted or blackmailed (as I don't know what threats he's made towards your DM) but both are definitely serious criminal offences and should be reported as such.

@NobodyKnowsTiddlyPom should I ring the police for advice? I dont want to threaten him and potentionally make her in more danger. Dm does not have a solicitor and refuses to get one. She is too weak and scared

As per your last thread, your dad doesn't want to sell and there's nothing your mum can do without a court order forcing the sale as part of divorce proceedings.

The police won't help with civil law matters.

The Police will help with threatening behaviour, coercive control, intimidation etc which may well frighten her husband enough to do the right thing...