Asperger's in females, wonder if I have it

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Has anyone been diagnosed as an adult or just suspects that they have it?

I've always been a bit different or 'off' but couldn't quite identify why.

As a teenager a friend told me that when I speak to her it's not 'directly' to her.
I was picked on sometimes for having strange facial expressions and mannerisms.
I would do things when I was younger like throw my bank cards etc. Straight into my bag as opposed to putting them in a purse.
I was always a little messy and disorganised. I had quite messy handwriting and would hand in scruffy pieces of work.
I find it very hard to know what others are thinking and to read people, at the same time my instincts are usually right for instance when somebody is pulling away from me.
I am very sensitive to noise, if I hear a baby or toddler screaming I have to leave, same with people chewing, tapping etc.
Hate bright lights, prefer natural light.
If somebody's speaking to me but there's another conversation going on in the background, I find it very hard to block that background one out.
I can get fixated on certain songs and things such as looking up places online.
Always preferred being alone rather than with others. Do like having a chat though and having a laugh, people describe me as funny and kind.
Often had this sensation that I act differently depending on who I'm with or that I have a different voice/behaviour.
I'm prone to emotional outbursts which I'm really ashamed of.

Anyway the list could go on. Not sure whether to seek a diagnosis and how this would help me, or just to continue living and accept myself as I am? Thanks

Dyspraxia
Possible asd spectrum

Sounds like loads I know who live their lives without any bother :)

I've thought of dyspraxia too certainly. I've failed my driving test 10 times, though that's also down to nerves I think.

I'm actually a pretty clean and tidy person, hate when my flat is messy or when others mess it, but for instance in my job there's a lot of paperwork to do, and unless I have a very clear list of what to do and in what order I find it too overwhelming.

I've always been a bit awkward, but maybe just need to learn to accept who I am? Just need more confidence too.

What you describe is a lot like my dd aged 11. She struggles also with conversation in a group of people and is much better 1 on 1. She gets overwhelmed easily and struggles to focus too. She has always hated loud noises and bright lights and will only wear super soft clothes. Her teachers says sometimes when she speaks she is quite monotone. She has emotional outbursts too and can't quite put her finger on how she is feeling exactly. Her friends call her "quirky". She gets obsessions for periods at a time and its an all out type of immersion in it.

She is waiting an assessment after having an educational psychologist assessment. She is very bright. It is suspected she has Aspergers, ADD and or dyspraxia.

There is a lot of information out there which would be helpful for you to read. Even if this does apply to you you can read up on some strategies that may help with you certain areas of life. It would be worth having a chat with your GP to see if there is an assessment you may be able to undergo.

It does sound like asd or dyspraxia although I suspect there is huge overlap between those conditions and some others too ADHD etc.

Do you feel you would be better getting it diagnosed? I think it is always easier to make sense of things when we have a good understanding of who we are.

Depends if you think it would help, OP. I could probably get diagnosed with ASD, but I'd rather not label myself.

Thank you for your replies.
There does often seem to be a lot of overlap indeed.
I've self diagnosed myself on the internet with all sorts which really isn't good, so seeing a GP would surely help me to have a better understanding and look at specific coping strategies.

@gonnabeok you have just described my DD 11 to a T. We are also waiting assessment. The hardest thing for her is conversation she really struggles to start and maintain a conversation. Thankfully when she starts secondary school she will be having sessions with a speech and language therapist.

Ok I really despise the “why do you need a label”?

It’s not a label, it’s an explanation, it’s a relief, it’s a “Jesus thank fuck now I understand”, , it’s a metaphorical walking sticking to help you navigate an NT focused world.

Diagnosed age 45 and made a huge difference. So if you think you have it, the research like crazy (hyper focus is a good thing we have) and present your case.

ASD woman here. Adult diagnosis. I also have a complete intolerance to certain noises, obsessions about things (maps, books, historical figures, space etc). Can't filter out hubbub during conversations easily. Very introverted. Odd tics and mannerisms. I exhaust myself by masking!
However, I am very organised; I think I've been lucky that my hyperfocus and obsession with process have translated into job performance, despite my oddness. I have a lot of issues with clothes too. I can't stand tight or itchy things! I guess I didn't really need to pursue a diagnosis, since my major issue as an adult is social relationships, but it's nice to know a reason for all my childhood 'quirks'!