I am a lesbian and when I was 19 I still wasn't out and to many I am still not as it is something I am sensitive about. My friends didn't know then but likely suspected and were obvs talking about it behind my back.
Anyway when I was 19 I was at a friend's house and it was an Xmas party and her mum was drunk and started openly saying it in front of a room fill of people making jokes about me '' being a big dyke'' etc. I was shocked and sat there awkward. I was shocked and utterly humiliated but didn't respond. This woman was a woman in her later 40s and I was a kid.
This woman was married yet had affairs I had heard of. I could have fired back with this but I didn't especially as I was mates with her nephews/nieces/daughters. I still see her on the street and be polite but aibu to still resent her for doing it but also resent myself for not fighting my corner and not throwing back her affairs at her?