I haven't dreamed for 2 weeks ever since a loved one passed away

[grannyinapram]

Is this normal? or a thing.
I usually have really vivid dreams. infact the few nights before I had especially vivid dreams. Wrote some down, voice recorded some, told my sister about some.
And ever since she passed away I havent had a single dream. its like I spend hours trying to fall asleep, then close my eyes and open them to the morning sun.
my sister has said the opposite- she is having very vivid dreams about the loved one.

think it may be longer than 2 weeks, I'm not actually sure now. 2 or 3 weeks ish

Sorry for your loss

From my understanding we always dream, but don’t recall all of them (and so assume we haven’t had a dream).

I should add, dreams usually occur during REM sleep, so it’s possible with the loss of a loved one, your sleep patterns are altered, maybe you’re only sleeping lightly in which case it is likely that you don’t dream.

My very little knowledge on the subject ☺️

thank you
I think I heard that too somewhere, but I've googled 'why can't I dream after a family death' and Google is full of grief dreams, people dreaming about the loved ones and stuff, nothing about not being able to dream (or remembering dreams)

I usually remember my dreams and even have had lucid dreams. I keep journals and write down the good ones. me and my sister discuss our dreams daily (are we weirdos? yes. possibly)
I can't believe I'm dreaming at all it feels like I'm not even sleeping. whereas usually my nights feel like they last ages

oh you know checkmate you're right. I am probably not hitting rem sleep. thank you. I wonder why Google didn't come up with this ( or me) its so obvious now
tha m you

I'm not an expert but I seem to recall that remembering a dream has to do with the point in your sleep cycle when the dream occurs. It's usually the ones when you're just about to wake up and are in a lighter state of unconsciousness that you remember on waking. I can imagine that the stress and grief and change in the way you fall asleep etc could be affecting you sleep cycles so you don't remember them at this time.

I haven't remembered a dream since my dad's death in 2004, I m not sure I could have gone that long without REM sleep,not to say it won't come back in time for you.

I had the same experience after my mom passed away.

I haven’t dreamed (or recalled a dream) since mum died a couple of months ago. My sleep is disrupted but even on the odd occasion I’ve slept through, no dreams. Not one.

In the period leading up to the death, was your loved one sick for a while? This can be a particularly exhausting time. You may simply be too bloody tired to be sleeping atm.