Is this colleague flirting with me ?

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Worked with him for about 3 months. Tbh, out of him and the 2 others I worked with I felt I didn't talk to him as much and didn't know him as well.
He was very helpful with regard to the job though.

Anyway, since moved to a new department so don't work with them anymore. Made a WhatsApp group with him and 2 others but only he replied. Was just a brief catch-up.

Had a bit of an issue at work so texted them asking for advice as they knew it a lot better than me. He replied and was really helpful, then left it at that really.

Anyway, out of the blue he's texted again asking if I got things sorted and then joked "Oh no, I'm not going to see you anymore."
Then he said something like he'd have to find other excuses to text me.

Haven't replied yet, I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend and even if we didn't, wouldn't be interested but like him as a friend.

Maybe I'm overthinking it but should I just shut the conversation down or is it just friendly chat?

I've had a few male 'friends' with or without girlfriends who have tried it on so a bit wary I guess.

It could go either way I’d say!

Urgh it just annoys me, I'm like why aren't your girlfriends enough for you.

Yeah, it sounds like he is. I would think if you’re not going to see him any more, then you can just keep him at arms length.

Maybe he thinks hours after him, with the WhatsApp group and turning to him with your problems?

Not everyone fancies everyone else. Maybe he enjoys having some friends at work. It’s so hard to tell what people mean via text because the whole nuance and tone is missing. Based on what you’ve said, I wouldn’t assume he fancied you but if it makes you feel uncomfortable just don’t reply.

Yeah it seems unlikely unless there happens to be a large work event.
I'll just politely shut it down.
Just find it so sad how common this is.

I messaged all 3 of them but he was the only one that replied.
Yeah, maybe it's innocent but who knows.

So everyone has posted to say they don’t necessarily think he fancies you but you seem insistent he does. So why did you start the thread and ask a question when you don’t take heed?

Not everybody has said that.
I feel uncomfortable and would like to be friends but can't tell if he's flirting or not so that's why I asked.

You feel uncomfortable and the other two you tried to strike up a conversation with via WhatsApp ignored you, which got their point across as presumably you haven’t messaged them again, so just do the same to him.

Maybe flirting, maybe bored. He could just naturally flirt a bit with women in all new friendly interaction. If you’re all wfh he could just be missing more colleague interaction. Wouldn’t get too pissed off at this stage, could very well just be friendly.

Yeah I was a bit disappointed about the other 2 tbh as seemed like we got on well and they didn't wanna reply to a hey how's it going msg, but ah well that's life.

He's obviously flirting. I would be really unhappy if a DP messaged a colleague with those comments.

Yeah i admit I'd be pretty unhappy too !

Hes trying it on. They always start with subtle comments like this..hes just testing the waters to see how you respond. So cliche and boring.

@RedHelenB

Maybe he thinks hours after him, with the WhatsApp group and turning to him with your problems?

I wondered this.

Indeed, it really annoys me especially when they know you're both in a relationship it's disrespectful, and makes me question what sort of person they are.
Can think of at least 4 men who've done it before.