To ask for more share in house equity in divorce due to kids

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Me and DH are splitting up

We have two young DC 6&2

I've offered to buy him out and asked him a rough guide of what he would want in order to do this

He said minimum 50% because of the building works he paid for (50k)

I said it should be less as I will be primary carer for the children in said home, and I don't want his cash or pension or anything else in settlement , I also said my earning potential was greatly reduced when having children, or else I could've contributed to these building works.

AIBU to ask him to take less than 50% ?

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss It was probably a decision made as a couple though for the OP to work reduced hours so why should she be punished for it now?

What mortgage capacity do you have? What would an appropriate property cost and how much equity would you need as the down payment?
The argument is that he’d need less as his mortgage capacity is greater than yours.

I agree. I’ve not yet met someone who needed to have another adult not work or just do part time because they couldn’t do their job without it. It’s usually because the person themselves wants to work less or not at all.

Except the issues around childcare and all things children would then need to be carried 50:50 and the man (usually) can’t possibly take time off his busy important job to take Timmy to the dentist, or stay home because Timmy has been throwing up for two days and needs 48 hours clear before going back to school.

It’s not about not being able to do their job without it, but their rise through the ranks being hampered by the stuff women all too often end up covering, by working part time. Men that are happy for her to keep the home fires burning, with all the ease and convenience that comes with that who then aren’t prepared to recognise the career and financial advantage afforded by the wife carrying the bulk of practical child rearing.