AIBU?
I know I am Vaccine envy
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 09:49
I know I am but being irrational.
Out of my family of siblings etc 9 adults, 7 have been vaccinated only 2 over 60s. SIL 35 working from home all year not sure why she was called no known health issues, BIL 31 working from home over a year again no known health issues. DSIS and DB are NHS so completely understand.
I know it's good for the greater population and the sooner everyone gets jabbed the better. However I am emergency service, 40 in a crowded office (already had large outbreak of covid) and no jab now I until May earliest due to 'lumpy' delays. We have primary school age children too.
The crux of the issue is now my family feel its OK to have a big Easter meet up including kids it will be 12 of them. We were invited but will decline I know it's, outside etc but we have been the more sensible ones whole way through. They have been mixing whole way through under the guise of various bubbles including a Christmas meet up which was only cancelled due to Boris.
Anyone esle struggling with superhuman families? I get made to feel the bad person for trying to be sensible. My kids seem to suffer too as they miss their cousins who they know meet up.
It's hard to be rational and sensible these days and I want to get out of lockdown as much as anyone.
How do you with family divisions manage?
AlexaShutUp · 30/03/2021 09:57
I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard. Ultimately, though, this is about their rule breaking rather than the vaccine, as it sounds like they have been breaking or at the very least stretching the rules throughout, whereas you have obviously been more sensible.
They shouldn't all be meeting up, even if they have had their jabs. Think about it. Would you actually be breaking the rules now if you had been vaccinated, or would you still have followed the guidance and waited?
It must be really frustrating for you and your kids to be excluded from these meet-ups, but you are absolutely doing the right thing.
beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 10:11
YANBU
I'm annoyed with those who have had vaccines breaking the rules - the vaccine has been shown to cut transmission by c.50%, but if everyone meets up a lot more - we will have more transmission and therefore those of us not vaccinated are more likely to be off work, our kids miss more school etc etc.
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 10:13
I wouldn't meet up still as its illegal. If someone should call the police this might also impact my job! Last summer we pushed it meeting in the beach most days it was warm etc. But I just think I want this to end. I know how much protection the vaccines offer etc.
TulipFields · 30/03/2021 10:20
Yanbu. I've had my jab as I'm 50 but vaccine envy is completely natural and understandable imo. If you were jealous of someone's handbag or something I'd have less sympathy, but this is about health and protection from serious illness. I think people who say "oh we'll all get it in the end, it doesn't matter when we get it" are missing the point that every day until after you get it you are at risk. It might not be a worry if you are young or vaccinated, but not everyone is in that position
Ponoka7 · 30/03/2021 10:21
I'd say that BIL and SIL have health stuff going on that you don't know about. Could be depression. I've had my vaccine, I'm ECV but don't share that, or why.
You can only make your own choices. It will be interesting to see if there's a spike in about three weeks. We are breaking the rule by one child making seven. But we've all been vaccinated and three of us have had Covid recently, so we don't feel that there's any issues with us meeting up.
Aroundtheworldin80moves · 30/03/2021 10:25
I'm jealous of the relatives younger than me,non keyworkers, having the jab (in their 30s) elsewhere in the country. I'm excited to return to 'work' with my youth group tonight... But unlikely to have jab for while yet.
DH will be waiting even longer as he comes under Army medical services rather than NHS and they've all been considered low priority apparently...
Kiehl · 30/03/2021 10:40
I'm 37 and got my vaccine a few weeks back and been very careful who to tell as I feel I'll be judged unfairly. I have underlying health issues, a chronic debilitating illness and waiting for major surgery.....looking at me you wouldn't ever know this.
I'm not trying to have a pity party but firstly you don't know ppls health and secondly id trade having my god awful illness for a healthy body and waiting for a vaccine in may.
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 11:15
I understand about underlying health issues people don't want to share but from conversations I don't think is the case. It seems to be a GP or postcode lottery 🤷🏼♀️.
I also appreciate where I live risk is so low and outdoors etc is safer but I feel that many are suffering still and we all want to get out of this. We all live close to each other so haven't suffered from distance.
The few who have taken the do what's best for you - which in certain circumstances I can understand don't realise they affect the wider picture
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 11:17
@Ponoka7
You can only make your own choices. It will be interesting to see if there's a spike in about three weeks. We are breaking the rule by one child making seven. But we've all been vaccinated and three of us have had Covid recently, so we don't feel that there's any issues with us meeting up.
One child over isn't such an issue but 12 potentially 14 then if we choose to go 16 in a garden? Cant explain away all those bubbles
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 11:18
@Kiehl
I'm not trying to have a pity party but firstly you don't know ppls health and secondly id trade having my god awful illness for a healthy body and waiting for a vaccine in may.
I do suffer with a chronic incurable illness but it isn't deemed life threatening and my treatments for symptoms have been delayed a year on the NHS so I appreciate that
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 13:04
@GCAcademic
I don't think I should be told obviously and appreciate privacy but the fact they don't know why they have been called suggests they haven't. By the by its more the superhuman attitude of we are vaccinated now 🤷🏼♀️ so rules don't matter
emmylousings · 30/03/2021 13:12
I'm with you op, suffering from vaccine envy too. I heard that a friend of DS's dad has had the jab (he works for the council, from home), I was like eh? Apparently the council have vaccinated all their staff, regardless of job role!! How's that fair / rational?!
ScandiCrimeFan · 30/03/2021 14:00
@Onthedowns I really agreed with this: "By the by its more the superhuman attitude of we are vaccinated now 🤷🏼♀️ so rules don't matter".
I'm pregnant and not eligible for the vaccine so I won't get vaccinated with the rest of my age group, the 40+ (although I'm trying hard to persuade my GP to let me have the vaccine). It feels like once social distancing ends and indoor meetups are allowed again, those of us unvaccinated will be forgotten about. I have inlaws who want to come and see me in the summer, which according to them will be fine "because we're all vaccinated then." No, I bloody well won't be!
WhenISnappedAndFarted · 30/03/2021 14:53
yanbu OP.
I'm in my early 30's and had my first jab last week but that's due to underlying health conditions. I don't have the attitude of I can do what I like, I've still been following the rules and will continue to follow them. I've not seen my family/friends in over a year now but just because I've had the first jab doesn't mean I shouldn't follow the rules.
I would be so frustrated in your position so yanbu at all
Cassilis · 30/03/2021 15:38
I'm not too bothered by it and definitely don't have vaccine envy.
I am glad that BoJo said people can only go on holiday when we're all vaccinated. If not, that would have created an 'us' and 'them' situation.
And hey, at least you get to watch how the clot saga is unfolding.
TubeOfSmarties · 30/03/2021 15:47
Your family is completely in the wrong to be meeting up in the way you describe. Kids are going to end up missing more and more school because of the way families are behaving, and it affects not only them but also children in their classes whose families have acted responsibly.
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 16:11
@TubeOfSmarties
Unfortunately because rates are low and they don't agree with other rules they think its OK. We have been lucky in that none of us have had covid so might have an impact.
Unfortunately gives me stress as I am the only one out of 15 that doesn't do what they are
Onthedowns · 30/03/2021 16:12
[quote ScandiCrimeFan]@Onthedowns I really agreed with this: "By the by its more the superhuman attitude of we are vaccinated now 🤷🏼♀️ so rules don't matter".
I'm pregnant and not eligible for the vaccine so I won't get vaccinated with the rest of my age group, the 40+ (although I'm trying hard to persuade my GP to let me have the vaccine). It feels like once social distancing ends and indoor meetups are allowed again, those of us unvaccinated will be forgotten about. I have inlaws who want to come and see me in the summer, which according to them will be fine "because we're all vaccinated then." No, I bloody well won't be![/quote]
Well one of DSis is 26 wks pregnant but isn't bothered about it 🤷🏼♀️.
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