Would you report or mind your own business?

[thepoorrelation]

There is an eighteen year old college student who works at the same care home as me at weekends who is regularly off sick and has had an inordinate amount of time off due to increasing family dramas and various other reasons why she can't attend work. A few days ago she rang up saying she had taken a lateral flow test at home and it was positive and therefore she wouldn't be attending work at weekend which then left us short staffed all weekend. I have her as a contact on snapchat and I have noticed today that she has attended her sixth form college today so therefore she is lying. I'm not a busy body and usually wouldn't dream of snitching on anybody but I am sick to death of picking up her work every weekend when she rings in sick which makes a difficult job even harder and negatively impacts on the residents. Would you report her to the manager or just keep schtum? This is not the first time I have noticed she has rang in sick and has then been drinking with her friends on snapchat or posting selfies with her boyfriend.

[thepoorrelation]

I know she also did it on New Year's Day as she didn't turn up for work as she was sick but was posting pictures with her boyfriend as happy as Larry at midnight. I kept my mouth shut then but I'm getting sick of it and the residents are suffering being a staff member down for the whole weekend when we run low at weekends anyway.

[ITSADOGSLIFE21]

Shes 18, therefore an adult. She needs to get used to being treated as one! We all do daft things at that age and we learn our lessons. This is one she needs to learn. Report her.

[Cheeseandlobster]

For all those saying myob. It is the op's business if she is constantly picking up the slack. And hand on heart how many of you would have that attitude if it were your very vulnerable and elderly mum or dad being put at risk by insufficient staff ratios because of "a kid doing what kids do"

[HostessTrolley]

She very probably got the job so that she had some experience to put on her med school application - its competitive in any year with 40% of applicants not getting a single offer and this year its really hard to get work experience so that job might well have clinched her place at med school above someone else. Now shes got the offer, it sounds like the job isn't a priority which is really unfair on the other staff and the residents. I’d mention it to someone as its probably not going to improve.

[museumsandgalleries666]

@mackleless

mind your own business

This is her business, her colleague's actions have a direct bearing on the OPs work, health and life. She has every right to say something.

[ElectricMistofelees]

@thepoorrelation

I know she also did it on New Year's Day as she didn't turn up for work as she was sick but was posting pictures with her boyfriend as happy as Larry at midnight. I kept my mouth shut then but I'm getting sick of it and the residents are suffering being a staff member down for the whole weekend when we run low at weekends anyway.

To be fair, we’ve all been fine at midnight on NYE and unfit for work by the morning

[Crabbypaddy]

Without even reading this post. No. Mind your own business

[Biker47]

@mackleless

mind your own business

It is her business, when she's charged with picking up the slack of someone taking the piss.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

@Cheeseandlobster

For all those saying myob. It is the op's business if she is constantly picking up the slack. And hand on heart how many of you would have that attitude if it were your very vulnerable and elderly mum or dad being put at risk by insufficient staff ratios because of "a kid doing what kids do"

This!

[HeddaGarbled]

The employers won’t be unaware that she’s unreliable. No need to get involved.

[BritWifeinUSA]

Nope. Leave her be. Sounds like she’s doing enough to get herself fired/put through a disciplinary without needing any help from you. And if there are genuine reasons for all that’s going on it’s none of your business either.

[memberofthewedding]

Normally I dont believe in snitching on colleagues if they are breaking some petty rule, like nipping off for a smoke or coming back from lunch 5 minutes late. I hate the sort of person who does that.

In this case its gross misconduct. She is stealing from the employer, dropping her co-workers in the shit and getting paid for it. Also using covid as an excuse is adding insult to injury. By leaving the rest of you short handed she is also putting lives at risk.

[eaglejulesk]

Shes a kid ffs. Where you Holier that thou at that age. We've all pulled a fast one to get out of going into work. Well I'm certAinly not gonna pretend I never have.

She's not a "kid". I had been working full time for two years by the time I was 18 and no, I wouldn't have pulled a fast one to get out of work. Some people actually have a good work ethic. From what you wrote OP about the many times she has been off work (and this is only a weekend job) it sounds as though she doesn't really care. I have no time whatsoever for work-shy people who are happy to let others pick up the slack.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

@eaglejulesk. Sorry little miss I'm so perfect I'm nearly God. For your satisfaction however ill consider myself well and truly told off

[eaglejulesk]

@Awwlookatmybabyspider Good!

[Itsmeagainandagain]

She won't last long, she be out on her ear. They will be loads of people right now needing jobs, believe me the boss will be onto her, esp if they have to pay sick leave more times than she's actually at work.

[blowinahoolie]

People like this need to learn a lesson. It may make her take stock if reported. Or she might just carry on regardless.

[chalktheblockwithglitterchalk]

She probably just hates the job . I have worked in a care home in the past- no proper training ( just shadow a more experienced carer for a few weeks) some rude residents and their entitled family, being accused of all sorts of crap from the families/ residents. on call on lunch breaks so no actual mental break.exhausting physical work, very long hours , underpaid staff, hands off management, my first pay was delayed by a month . Understaffed so a huge rush to get everything done quickly. The care home company actually paid for visas for staff from Ukraine/ Belarus as they couldn't get staff from Uk/ Europe to do the job. A few of these employees were counting down the days they could find another job without compromising their visa/ residency conditions.
Making endless cups of tea, being warned that you must make cups of tea if asked as it is considered abuse if you don't ( I was told this at interview) and putting clothes on to wash.
Just not a very nice working environment.
I was about aged 21 then.

[Cheeseandlobster]

[quote Awwlookatmybabyspider]@eaglejulesk. Sorry little miss I'm so perfect I'm nearly God. For your satisfaction however ill consider myself well and truly told off [/quote]
You are acting like a child on here. Ironic really. How would you feel about this if your mum or dad lived in this care home and were not given their meds on time or were not being checked on anywhere near enough, because of someone like the op's colleague letting everyone down at short notice on a regular basis? What will she do when she is a junior doctor? The same? God help her patients if this is her attitude.

[chalktheblockwithglitterchalk]

@thepoorrelation

The worry thing is she's supposedly off to study medicine in September, so I don't think she'll get away with that 'oh she's just a kid' when she gets there. It will be a massive shock.

She will likely do well in her course. Just because she doesn't enjoy her job caring for the elderly doesn't mean she will be rubbish in her medical career. She's very young too.

[eaglejulesk]

She will likely do well in her course. Just because she doesn't enjoy her job caring for the elderly doesn't mean she will be rubbish in her medical career. She's very young too.

No-one said she didn't like her job, just that she didn't apply herself to doing it. If she can't do that now how on earth is she going to cope with the training for a medical career? If she truly doesn't enjoy the job, well no-one is forcing her to do it. I'd also like to know how we got to the stage where 18 year olds are viewed as children - she's an adult.

[Unanananana]

I would report her. She is potentially out spreading covid for a start.

I've worked with people like this in the past. Morons who give a sickly sob story to get out of work then get themselves caught out in person or on social media. More fool her for posting stuff. You'll probably find your workplace have a specific social media policy that mentions this stuff. She is 18, an adult with a responsible job and should behave as such or let someone else have the job. No sympathy from me I'm afraid.

This is different to those on long term sick being out and about by the way. Lord knows that getting out of the house is essential for most with mental health issues. Calling in sick to go out on a jolly then posting it on social media is just stupid.

[PersimmonTree]

@thepoorrelation

The worry thing is she's supposedly off to study medicine in September, so I don't think she'll get away with that 'oh she's just a kid' when she gets there. It will be a massive shock.

That's her problem. Your problem is she's causing issues for you and the rest of the team. Don't the managers check on staff attendance? I'd say it's up to them to discipline her, up to you to report the issues she's causing,rather than going into details about Snapchat etc