To want the mirror hanging on the other wall?!

[harryandmarv]

So (I actually started another thread reg this in Home Dec) our mirror was hung on the wall above the sideboard, held by two screws into the wall. The sideboard has since been moved across the other side of the room to accommodate a new dining table. The mirror is left just hanging there, between the settee and dining table are, not even central just off focus & looks a bit odd. There is nothing underneath it.

I said to DH I want it moving across to the opposite wall, I think above the electric fire where we have a nice thick rustic shelf on would be a good idea as at least we know that won’t be moved & the mirror will have a more permanent home. DH got really moody at me & said he’s not ‘fucking’ up any more walls or drilling any more holes. The mirror stays where it is & why do I want to move it etc etc. Granted the wall where I wanted is painted a nice colour (the other one is just white and yes there is obviously holes to fill, repaint where the mirror will have been on the white wall (I would be willing to do that) but it’s not a huge huge job is it? If I felt confident I’d do it myself! So that’s it, it stays his way.

The mirror is is say around 8lbs in weight so I’m reluctant to use command strips.

Anyone else have to just put up with what their partners say as in terms of diy/decor do you usually find a compromise?

If he doesn't care where the mirror is apart from the hassle of moving it then I'd hire someone to move it.

It's not really something you can compromise is it? You can't move half the mirror. 😁

You could take it down I suppose.
It's not where you want it but he doesn't have to fit it to the other wall. You could make the little repairs and make the white wall look good as new.

Then he'll maybe put the mirror up on the other wall.

Re how do others do it, well for us it's whoever cares the most.

Why don't you just do it?

Anyone else have to just put up with what their partners say as in terms of diy/decor do you usually find a compromise?

I do the stuff myself if I want something so there is really no arguments. It usually goes like
"Hm. I want to move this there, what do you think"
"K"
"Alrighty."
He helps when I ask for help and vice versa.

Could you just stand the mirror on the rustic shelf rather than making more holes?

He basically can't be arsed.

I'd ask him to take it down but wouldn't bother putting it anywhere else.

You could move it yourself?

Command Strips for a 8 lbs mirror - eek!

Just move it and stick some luck up to cover the other holes

@SpacePotato

Could you just stand the mirror on the rustic shelf rather than making more holes?

He basically can't be arsed.

Why should he have to move it? The poster is entirely capable of doing it herself.

I agree - just do it yourself.

Learn how to use a drill, figure out rawlplugs, it’s easy.

Phone a man who can. I don’t play those games anymore.

My husband moves whatever I want to wherever I want it.

I could do it myself, but he's better at it.

He probably most definitely finds me annoying as I make him get a spirit level out and measure it but its better than me moaning!

Time for some YouTube tutorials.

It’s a very easy job and I’m sure you could do it yourself if you wanted. Im assuming you have tools if you were thinking your husband could do it.

buy another mirror for the fireplace and get someone in to hang it....not possible for him to complain, no holes to fill and he hasn't had to put the new one up.

hell...PM me I'll do it if you are near....NE Scotland.

My DH usually has a similar response. He absolutely hates DIY and dreads using a drill. I'd get annoyed but I'm not confident enough to do it myself so I don't see how I can complain that he won't either. If you really really want it done, pay for a handyman to move it.

If I felt really confident I would do it myself, it’s not that I’m scared of using a drill, I suppose it’s because it’s a mirror so more fragile & I don’t know why but it was a ball ache to hang, it did take us both to do it! That’s probably why he’s reluctant to move it, but he just refuses to see my perspective, it would look so much better, it’s annoying!

At the same time, I’m not asking him to knock down a wall, i’ll gladly help and fill the holes in the other wall, repaint, I do most of the painting anyway. But he refuses to budge so mirror is hung in stupid spot. It’s ridiculous & it’s going to bug me now, well at least no one can see see it for a while I suppose. I think when we do have visitors I’ll have to get the question in
‘Oh don’t you think this mirror would look much better here’
I’m sure I can plan it it with one of my girls!

Why the helpless woman routine?

Putting up a mirror is easy.

You get the right fixings for your wall and away you go.

He doesn’t want to do it because it’s a ball ache. Rather then get the girls to join in your conspiracy of how band the mirror looks, give it a go yourself.

Just move it yourself. If you’re unpracticed in using power tools, watch some YouTube videos, measure it three times, mark your holes, and get on with it. Sadly, you’ll probably find, that as soon as you start your partner will take over anyway.