Do you see much of your adult child living at home?

[Flowers24]

By this I mean 19/20 or older if they still live at home? I hardly see mine, he's either sleeping most of the day if not at work that day or at hos job or out walking with gf or in normal times out somewhere else. Feel like i rarely see him or get to have some time together ? He eats with gf or later on will cook something, I miss our time as were always close and feel we still are but its drifting a bit, esp with his dad too,
I spend more time with the younger one 16 , we go for drives and chat, chat at other times most days.
I guess its normal for the older child / young adult to not spend much time with a parent anymore?
Those with 19/20 or older tell me your situation, would love to know if mine is normal.

My eldest is 22 and works shifts as a police officer. She's due to move out in the next month or so but it's pretty much as you describe.

We watch some bits on tv together a few times a week maybe (I work from home) and we pop to costa or m & s once a week or so or she follows me around the house yakking away if she's telling me something or other.

Mine are 19 & 22, they stay up late, sleep late, pass me in the kitchen when they are foraging for food, say hi on their way to work and hi when they go back to their bedrooms to study (maybe 🙄) Then, miraculously, they come alive and just have to tell us absolutely everything whilst standing in the living room doorway at about 9:30pm. Unless they are watching cricket with DH that's about it really.

Yea she is on furlough poor girl is probably sick of the sight of us!

Mine works permanent nights, so ships that pass in the night. I’m getting ready for work when he comes in, might get up early evening have a bit of chat,might eat, more often takes tea with him, away at ten. Days off used to be going to see gf. Now tends to stick to his sleeping routine and either gaming, watching films or reading. He doesn’t look well.

Mine (23) works evenings and is friends with the people who she works with so is still socialising with them, going for drives/takeaway food after shifts etc. We occasionally eat and watch television together. We like the same stuff. Sometimes this is only once a fortnight. During normal times we would plan a trip to the theatre or cinema for our catch up. I see my eldest on special occasions. I have most contact with my middle one who I do childcare for.

My DD is also a gamer, that leaves little time for conversation.

@nokidshere lol I think you live in my house !! The only time I see my 19 year old is when he comes downstairs at 10pm and starts talking inane bollocks about something I have no interest in whatsoever while theres 10 minutes of my movie left !!! This is usually followed by the " How do I work the grill again so I can have a cheese toasty?"

Omg same thing happens here!!

I've got a 21 (almost 22) yr old at home.

Between his work and mine, my beach trips and his time on his computer in his room, we see each other maybe two or three hours a day?

We try to eat together; he came with me to the beach today to beach comb, (hardly ever happens) and went for tacos after.

We play board games, or cards, or watch shows. Sometime play online pin ball, and game together.
We went shopping the other day, that was pretty fun, as we found a bunch of new shops we liked.
We recently moved across country, during lockdown, so haven't met many others yet.
Mostly low key no plan time.

No idea what the YABU / YANBU vote is so haven't voted, but I think it is pretty normal / usual for a young adult to have their own life, yes.

If they are in, then we eat our main meal together, but often they aren't, so we just see them when we pass on the landing or in the kitchen.