Male friend got attacked by gf-family and friends laughing.

[thatwasme22]

OK I know women suffer much more from dv etc. and I don't need an analysis on why women are still more vulnerable etc.

Anyway a close male friend was engaged to a woman and it appears they have split and 1 of the stories was that she physically attacked him in his sleep. My mate[a man] rang me this morning top tell me and was laughing as was the attacked man's family but aibu to think they wouldn't be laughing if it was a woman getting attacked? I find it disgusting.

Did you say that to the man who was laughing? Have you told any of them that they are disgusting? I bloody hope so, because they are!!

I would guess all you can do is register your disgust with them and maybe offer your friend a non judgemental ear!

I didn't but I wish I had of. This friend would not listen anyway if you said it.

That is disgusting. There is nothing funny about domestic violence and I would tell them that.

I think female on male DV may be very unreported and this behaviour could add to the unreporting. Hope he is okay.

Many people I talk to have the philosophy of ''he probably deserved it.''

Several years ago a female acquaintance after a house party was sleeping beside a boy[around 22 yo] and he was asleep, he was passed out with drink. It was just the 2 of them on the sofa and she stuck her hands down in trousers and started fondling him. He woke up and told people, it was a small town so everybody found out. People laughed including the boy's own father.

Both examples are awful. I work for a domestic violence charity for many years and the impact on men is of course equally as awful as it is for women. there are some elements of it that make it harder including the attitude of his family. Give him lots of support and acknowledge it's must be very difficult for him.

@thatwasme22

I didn't but I wish I had of. This friend would not listen anyway if you said it.

Tell him. Take a stand and tell him his attitude isn’t acceptable. Bullshit like that has no place in society. Violence is violence. He has no problem voicing his opinions so why shouldn’t you get to do the same? Stand up for what you believe in. If he doesn’t like what you say...f*ck him! Do you really want to be friends with someone who laughs at a victim?