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To want other people to make an effort...?

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PineapplePrincess · 29/03/2021 01:13

I’m lonely. In a house with three other boys (hubby and two kids).

I haven’t seen anyone outside my household, with the exception of next door neighbours in over a year now. Pandemic related naturally.

Usually I would have play dates or chase friends to meet up. I’ve realised I would instigate all of these, I would tend to host them too; I’ve noticed it’s me making the majority of the effort.

Since the pandemic I’ve seen no one, spoken to no one and no one has checked in on me. I’ve reached out to most of my usual friends and they’ve generally said they’re okay and we’ve exchanged email/DM pleasantries, I’ve said we should do a Skype/Teams/Zoom call. But nothing. No follow up, no checking in on me. I’ve let go on, to see if they’d eventually reach out, but no.

I know they are busy juggling their own lives, but it would be nice. I have no family except hubby and kids - only child, both parents deceased. The hubby and kids are very into boyish activities, wrestling and football - try as I might I can’t get into these.

I would love some female company, to chat to, to relate to, to blow off steam to. But now I just feel like I’m pestering people, who obviously don’t want or miss my company.

Sorry, bit of a mope-fest.

OP posts:
Justyouwaitandseeagain · 29/03/2021 03:43

I hear you! Lying here awake and feeling very similar so couldn’t read and run. I feel so trapped at this point in the pandemic. Used to be so reliant on play dates and even kids birthday parties for female company. Realised how I was often the instigator. Hopefully knowing you are not alone will be a help FlowersCake

altlife · 29/03/2021 03:47

"I know they are busy juggling their own lives, but it would be nice."

It might be that they feel the same, that you're busy juggling your own life.

Reach out. It doesn't matter who instigates it. Once you feel comfortable enough, maybe mention this. You might just find they felt the same but didn't feel brave enough to reach out x

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