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Neighbour’s dog

56 replies

Whatamess582 · 28/03/2021 22:07

Apologies if this kind of thing has been asked before. I had a quick scan of previous threads and haven’t found anything similar.

My neighbour comes to his house, which is a second home (which is side on to ours) every Tuesday evening and leaves Thursday morning. I think he has the day off on a Wednesday. He sometimes comes up on the weekend but oddly this doesn’t happen on a weekend... no idea why. When he comes he brings his enormous German Shepherd with him who my dog absolutely hates and they spend all day barking at each other through the fence, so I spend all Wednesday either yelling at my dog to shut up or having to lock him in the house all day which is unfair to him. The neighbour jokes that my (otherwise silent animal!) is very territorial and makes a lot of noise....

But that’s not really what I’m most annoyed about. Every Tuesday and Wednesday night he leaves the dog out in the garden. And when I come into the bedroom and turn my bedroom light on, the light streams out into my driveway and their back garden and dog starts barking at the light. That sets my dog on edge and he starts scampering round the house whimpering and whining to go out and protect his territory. The kids wake up then and start asking if the ‘crazy dog from next door is loose’... which is actually our greatest fear. When I turn the bedroom light off... the dog stops barking instantly. But I can’t do everything I need to do in complete darkness. I feel like a fool walking around my own bedroom in my own house with my phone light on trying to brush my teeth, get undressed etc so as not to disturb the animal. I’ve mentioned it to the dogs owner and he kind of laughed it off and made some joke about the dog obviously thinking I should be in bed at that time. I asked him if the dog always slept outside or if he could put him inside and the answer was along the lines of ‘he prefers sleeping outside... he is a guard dog’

We don’t have any other permanent neighbours who are affected. and those that are there permanently are on the other side of the road and can’t hear all of this.

AIBU to call the local council and tell them it’s a noise nuisance? Or should I just suck it up for 1 (sometimes 2) nights a week.

OP posts:
Whatamess582 · 29/03/2021 01:00

@memberofthewedding
Yes he can. We are in France and it’s within the same department so he is allowed. He actually only lives about 50km away so that’s not actually that far. But our village offers hunting and foraging and fishing that his primary residence doesn’t do he comes here year round on Wednesdays and weekends to do that.

OP posts:
Peacocking · 29/03/2021 03:06

Could you fit a bright outdoor light directed away from your windows that stays on all night. The dog can't keep up the barking indefinitely and it would mask your indoor lights coming on. Not a great solution, but cheap and might help.

TaraR2020 · 29/03/2021 03:33

I think you've been given a bit of rough time in the replies here, op.

Focusing only on the nighttime issue:

This is ridiculous - absolutely no way should you be having to alter your behaviour or routine in your home to prevent a neighbours dog from barking at the light.

Your neighbour is being massively unreasonable at not addressing it.

Speak to him again, firmly. He needs to deal with it - its his problem, not yours. Your needs are not second to a neighbours dog.

If this fails then speak with whatever authoritary body you have recourse to.

And good luck!

makingmammaries · 29/03/2021 04:07

France, where this happens a lot. You could complain to the Mairie but it will annoy your neighbour and might not bring any result. I’d be leaving s light on all night so that he has to do something about the dog. Warn and reassure your children. Repeat as necessary. It the dog barks all night, someone else will complain.

GarlicMonkey · 29/03/2021 06:44

I'd be putting some training work in on my own dog then leaving my bedroom light on all night. Other people will soon start complaining if it's barking all night & the owner will get sick of it himself. No one should have to go to the extremes of living in darkness because of someone else's dog.

KILNAMATRA · 29/03/2021 07:25

Thank God he doesn’t live there full time! It s horrible to feel uncomfortable with your neighbours. But I doubt reporting the issue will improve your relationship, it’ll just add to the discomfort.. so take in your doggie For 2 nights and get your blackout blinds.. maybe give your doggie CBD oil to calm him down? Just while neighbours dog is there?

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